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What an odd post.

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It’s an odd post because it’s an odd situation. When’s the last time you’ve met someone who has a masters, bought and paid for everything they own with no help because they work, appears to have an amazing social life, and doesn’t come off as anything awkward in-person….have self-dialogue with multiple viewpoints ending in them saying they “aren’t going to amount to anything so might as well just keep proving everyone wrong because frick them.”

Yea. Odd.

I’m not sure how to approach this family member to discuss the behaviors I have observed. I know their medical history does not have any type of mental health diagnosis.

They talk to themselves. A lot. Not when they are immediately around other people, but when they are by themselves even if other people are in the same house. They don’t talk harmful things, but they go up and down in their intensity with the conversation. It seems like there are different “roles” by the way conversations go. One is angry, one is sad, one is logical, one is encouraging. The person doesn’t use different voices, but there’s a pattern to the conversation.

What do I do? What can I look up to learn about before I approach them? They are healthy, late 30’s, educated, and successfully living on their own. They don’t have kids or a spouse though. I’m not scared OF them, I’m scared FOR them. Again, it’s not harmful talk. They just sorta don’t like themselves and the common ending is “frick it, you’ll be fine even if no one gives a shite. Show them how fine you will be by doing what they said you couldn’t.”

What I don’t really understand is why so many people felt forced to take the shot or lose their job when, allegedly, a PDF of the card was readily accessible. With everyone and their mother showing off that they got the vaccine on every social media platform that exists, allegedly, lot numbers were easy to come by too.

I was working for a Fortune 250 healthcare company at the beginning of the push to vaccinate and then worked at a local government office about midway through COVID. We had the same threats of “take the shot or lose your job.”

I’m just saying, neither one of those employers had the manpower or ability to accurately check every employees’ handwritten vaccine card that was thrown out at random pop-up drive-thru shot clinics/fairgrounds/stadiums.

I saw some colleagues just keep their mouth shut at work about being against the forced vaccination and slide on through the ruckus with a homemade laminated PDF card off Google images. From what I have been told through hearsay, those folks never had a problem boarding a domestic flight, going to get a surgery, or any other type of inconvenience.

As the world turns.

ETA: words are hard

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If you came at me with these freaking HR-approved ice breaker questions, that would be the end of the relationship. Just let these flow naturally. Don’t overthink this.

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It’s not “need something to talk about to have something to talk about”. I’m asking about things or topics that would probably risk internet reputation points but might help raise your “in-person” reputation points with people that exist in your actual life.

If you came at me with a resume as boring as you sound, you wouldn’t get an interview to hear the questions. Just the same as most of the rest. Nothing much to offer except a willingness to settle for whoever will settle for them. But as long as she’ll play with your balloon knot on occasion, you’ll be fine. And as long as she has an Instagram/whatever, she will be fine. Because she is talking, just not to you.

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I am thankful I'll never be stuck in a vehicle with you.

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We could keep it boring if you’d prefer. Talk about the boil on your back that you can’t reach. Or about that one time when you told that dude to meet you in the parking lot but he didn’t show up, that we will both know didn’t happen. Or your favorite color.

Or, you could jump out the door at moving speed on the highway. You’re never trapped if you’re desperate enough to escape an intimidating situation.

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You need to marry her if you are this corny IRL and she let you PIIHB

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Yea, buddy. Finding interesting topics to use one of the most fundamental means of interacting with another person is so corny.

I bet you’re very interesting.

ETA: you might find other ways of saying “lemme stick in your arse tonight” if you can’t PIIHB. I’ll take being corny and take up your slack.

Going to be taking a vacation in a few days with the lady (no pics). 6 hour drive. We’ve dated for a few months, but first trip together. I can already PIIHB, so that one is answered.

Conversation is easy to make, but I’m interested in unique conversation starters, thinking outside the usual. Some I like are:

You’re in a room with everyone you’ve ever met. Who would you look for?

If you could solve one worldwide crisis, what would it be?

Are there more wheels or windows in the world?

Your partner and your dad (or mom if talkin to a baw) have switched bodies. The only way to swap them back is by having sex with one of them. Which one you picking?

There’s 10 baws here willing to pitch in to get the price to $85/person for 2 hours of tossing. I sent an email for a MLK Day rental. Stay tuned.

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Wow, sounds like your new years eve party is a real hoot!

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Room for another tosser to bring the rent cost down, if you’re interested.

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From a standing start? Can I make a run at it or spin around like a shotputter? Technique matters a lot.

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Let’s say you have a 6 foot circle. You can spin if you want, or run and go… just stay inside the circle.