re: Potential FIL

in my personal experience with racist family members - they tend to be all bark and no bite. It's as if they use it as an intimidation factor but play the intimidation really strong because they know that it would never escalate to more than that. in this case - i highly doubt he wants to subject himself nor his family to the onslaught of ridicule if anything bad were to happen. The news headlines would be crazy. best of luck and as far as the dad goes i think he is just trying to scare the shite out of you because its his baby girl and once you establish respect with the old man i would expect it to be ok.