re: Potential FIL

As the father of two daughters, I think your Gf may have made poor choices of dates/boyfriends before you. Her reluctance to tell the family about you may be because of that rather than blatant racism. He realizes that at her age anyone she sees more than a month becomes a potential future husband and it isn't his job to make you comfortable. It's his job to scare the shite out of you and make sure you are worthy of becoming the new man in her life. You are taking the most important thing in his entire life, and if you don't have the stones to go to his turf and prove yourself worthy, you aren't ready to marry his daughter. If you marry her anyway, you deserve a lifetime of him making you miserable. The old fairy tale of the knight going to slay the dragon to marry the princess wasn't really referring to an actual dragon...