re: (serious) my friend univted me to her wedding becuase i'm black

I just want to make sure I get all this, assuming it's true. This BFF, who you did a lot of valuable work for, for FREE, and who you talk with daily, has invited you to her wedding. You have an invitation. But she's asked that you not respond to this invitation, saying she would be uncomfortable if you attended because you'd be the only black person there. Is this correct?

OK, it's totally shitty to send someone an invitation, then tell them they're uninvited. Trashy and low-class doesn't begin to describe that behavior. IF you've never slept with her, there is absolutely no worthy reason for this. And, if I were in that situation, I can't see inviting someone to my wedding that I'd slept with, unless my husband was completely cool with it. But the time to have that discussion is BEFORE the invitations are sent, like when you're making the invitation list. Uninviting someone is beyond tacky.

I would email her, and acknowledge that you won't be attending, at her request. Then tell her that since she is uncomfortable with your presence on such a special occasion, she should consider your website work as a wedding present and your friendship over because you're uncomfortable with rude, low-class people. Wish her well and tell her never to contact you again. She doesn't deserve you. Assuming all this is true and you've shared all pertinent details.

I can't imagine not wanting my close friends with me on my wedding day, regardless of race, religion, or any other issue. If they are my friends, they're friends regardless.