re: I need help, guys

I would find a lawyer first. The law does not favor men in a potential divorce, especially when kids are involved. Second, offer up some sort of counseling because maybe you don’t fully understand her position and vice versa. Clarity on the situation is vital to understanding how far you should go. Do you fight for her and shift your focus to yourself? Either way, you need to improve your own situation. By that I mean, what are your perceived weaknesses and challenges. How do you become a better person? If you’re not religious, you should consider going to church. Spiritual therapy is a strong drug during tough times.

But the most important thing is your children. I come from a split household and the tension between my parents is 15 years old. I’m getting married later this year, and both parents have said they will not attend if the other is present. I’ve carried a lot of resentment for my own parents. You don’t want your children to experience the same thing. Whatever happens, treat your wife with respect and never say bad things in front of your kids. They will remember, I did. God Bless man