re: My ex wants to meet up and talk....

Bro really? Everything that you described about this woman screams nuclear reactor on meltdown. Stay away or you're going to regret it. When you see red flags stop, when you see all the red flags you have, fricking stop turn and run like hell.

Many have given you good advice about severing ties in the other thread you did on her. I would suggest you heed that advice and with a quickness.