re: OT: Anyone ever been through a divorce here?

I've been divorced in two states, neither of which was Arkansas and it definitely varies from state to state, but one thing that I believe is universal is that what you had coming into the marriage is yours. What you bought or obtained after the marriage is both of yours regardless of who is actually paying for it.

I had a truck free and clear going into marriage #2 and the ex bought a new car after we were married and was almost done with the pmts on it, but at the divorce my truck was 100% mine and her car was 50% mine also since it was purchased AFTER we married. That was in a community property state.

Unfortunately the 401K I had from the job I took after we married was 50% hers. My earlier investments before we married were all mine.

I've had two amicable divorces, still "seeing" ex #2 occasionally. I can't imagine the horror of going through a nasty divorce.

Sounds like she would be jilted. Hell hath no furry as a women scorned.

Don't make any rash decisions. Getting the legal help up front is a good move.