My wife and I have been married 4 years and she has over analyzed everything my parents have said and done ever since we got married. Says their marriage is horrible and she doesn't want us to end up that way. It has really put a damper on our marriage and I see divorce in our future. It's fine for her parents to come and go as they please, but any time mine asks to come visit we are always "busy". Makes life a living hell. We also have a 17 month old. It's going to be tough. Any time we have an argument or differing opinions she threatens to leave, and now she's trying to send me to a counselor again (this time by myself bc "I'm the problem"). It's been a very trying four years and not at all the happily ever after I had hope for.... I will never get married again if this falls through. I think all women have a level of crazy and not at all worth the trouble.

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Posted by TigerHam85

59-024 Kamehameha Highway

Member since Nov 2009

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 1:16 pm to slowdanceCHUB

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I see divorce in our future.

Quiter

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Posted by FLBooGoTigs1

Nocatee, FL.

Member since Jan 2008

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 1:20 pm to slowdanceCHUB

Yeah its time to put them big boy pants on son. The wife has them on now. Tell her straight up about her one way street with the parents thing. If you can't work on it through counseling maybe it is time to move along. Your kid is young and won't remember you being married just be prepared to pay child support a long time. Get a good lawyer too. Good luck

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Posted by CoachChappy

Member since May 2013

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 1:34 pm to slowdanceCHUB

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Any time we have an argument or differing opinions she threatens to leave

He who files 1st wins. Do it now!!!!

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Posted by HaveMercy

Member since Dec 2014

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 2:04 pm to slowdanceCHUB

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Makes life a living hell

OP here might not be the best person to offer advice on this topic for obvious reasons; but please don't let this ruin your marriage. My sister-in-law moved away from both sets of parents so they could get some peace. Maybe get your pastor involved or another impartial 3rd party.
If the in-laws are a pain in the arse now, imagine how they'll be when your divorced...

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Posted by TigerPanzer

Orlando

Member since Sep 2006

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 2:21 pm to slowdanceCHUB

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My wife and I have been married 4 years and she has over analyzed everything my parents have said and done ever since we got married. Says their marriage is horrible and she doesn't want us to end up that way. It has really put a damper on our marriage and I see divorce in our future. It's fine for her parents to come and go as they please, but any time mine asks to come visit we are always "busy". Makes life a living hell. We also have a 17 month old. It's going to be tough. Any time we have an argument or differing opinions she threatens to leave, and now she's trying to send me to a counselor again (this time by myself bc "I'm the problem"). It's been a very trying four years and not at all the happily ever after I had hope for.... I will never get married again if this falls through. I think all women have a level of crazy and not at all worth the trouble.

Shouldn't have married a Filipina.