Man, I completely understand where you are coming from. The exact same thing happened with my dad, just with a little different time frame.

I fought harder and harder as the chemo went along for the doctor to give us a more straightforward answer. All he kept saying was keep taking the treatments, keep taking the treatments. We finally decided to see another doctor and during the first visit she told us that we had two, maybe three weeks, after the previous doctor had been telling us 8 months to a year.

This pisses me off just thinking about it. I know in my mind we wasted precious time with my dad because the doctor wouldn't be honest with us.

Obviously there's a lot more details that I won't get into but it was a very frustrating time trying to balance whether to not "give up" or try to continue the treatments, that was later revealed to us doing no good.

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Posted by Prof

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Posted on 3/15/14 at 7:11 pm to DynastyDawg

^We went through the same last year with the SO's dad who was like a father to me. We were told he had a great chance but he died before he could start treatment. I still don't understand why or how it could go from 'treatable' to dead before he was healed enough to take chemo.

Doctors are usually conservative about the time they give - they don't like getting people's hopes up and would rather tell you that there's no time than get it so wrong and so we believed them and were totally unprepared for what happened. I don't know if they messed up or if it's just that cancers can and sometimes do turn out to be so damned unpredictable.

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