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re: Serious question..if your S/O did this what would your response be?
Posted on 9/27/16 at 9:28 pm to Carolina_Girl
Posted on 9/27/16 at 9:28 pm to Carolina_Girl
Can I get a picture of your eyes?
I want to see what crazy looks like.
I want to see what crazy looks like.
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Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:07 pm to Chazzy McRamzee
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Can I get a picture of your eyes?
I want to see what crazy looks like.
And what, exactly, makes ME the crazy one?
I didn't fall for some stupid arse bullshite line. I immediately knew it was bs. I was curious whether I was the ONLY one who found his story completely bizarre and extremely far-fetched.
Can I get a picture of your eyes?
I want to see what a judgemental prick looks like.
This post was edited on 9/27/16 at 10:08 pm
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:10 pm to Carolina_Girl
If it looks like a duck,
if it quacks like a duck,
if it has feathers like a duck,
IT IS A DUCK.
Ditch this clown. Move on.
OR
Strap on and PIIHB
if it quacks like a duck,
if it has feathers like a duck,
IT IS A DUCK.
Ditch this clown. Move on.
OR
Strap on and PIIHB
This post was edited on 9/27/16 at 10:24 pm
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:11 pm to Carolina_Girl
1. $126 is a really strange amount of money, very specific.
2. Why not tell you when he loaned the money? Why come to you when he needs the collector?
3. Story is sketchy.
4. Is there a chance he was catfished?
5. I'd probably move on. You don't need that drama.
2. Why not tell you when he loaned the money? Why come to you when he needs the collector?
3. Story is sketchy.
4. Is there a chance he was catfished?
5. I'd probably move on. You don't need that drama.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:20 pm to Chazzy McRamzee
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Can I get a picture of your eyes?
I want to see what crazy looks like.
She's definitely not crazy for being suspicious about the guy she's with. Everyone here can see the red flags. Hopefully she will take the advice and ditch this dude.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:27 pm to Carolina_Girl
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Sorry this is so long..I am just hurt beyond belief and that kinda lends itself to rambling.
I'll be honest, I don't understand what's going on other than your boyfriend being a weirdo.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:08 pm to Carolina_Girl
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My S/O of almost 7 months just dropped a bomb on me today:
Is this the TAMU guy? I can't always keep track of what you kids are up to all the time.
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What do y'all think?
Find two very large friends - I would offer but not in your neighborhood at the moment - and go in the loan collection business. Track her arse down and collect the money. Snitches and bitches get stitches!
126 for reported cash
+ 126 for actual cash he did not tell you about
+ 248 for intrest and collection expenses
= 500
Be the boss because your S/O clearly does not wear the pants in this outfit. Give your S/O a nice card with the 126 (total outlay 130) and a nice "its not you, its me" note inside. Blow the remaining 370 on a nice outfit and a day at the spa to perk you up.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:10 pm to Carolina_Girl
You know the answer.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:10 pm to Cheese Grits
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Be the boss because your S/O clearly does not wear the pants in this outfit. Give your S/O a nice card with the 126 (total outlay 130) and a nice "its not you, its me" note inside. Blow the remaining 370 on a nice outfit and a day at the spa to perk you up.
Best advice you've given.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:22 pm to Carolina_Girl
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Carolina_Girl
The situation is fricked and a I feel for ya girl.
Here's the deal. Yes he is a dumbass 1. For putting you in this situation and 2. For believing you would actually buy that shite.
Now his story don't hold weight at all and you yourself have already shot holes through it. I understand you must really like this turd because you are actually trying to rationalize this garbage story and blatant disrespect to you as a credible story.
I have been in this situation before and obviously so have you with the little backstory you have given. You know what your gut is telling you to do and you are fighting it and wondering what we all think to try and give it some backup.
Trust me on this. Trust your gut always (not your heart) or it will prove you wrong every time.
He is laying groundwork for a fantastical story. Obviously something has went sideways with this side girl and she has threatened to come to you and lay it in the open. The most obvious tie that can be proven is the 126 money transfer and this weak arse story is what he has come up with on the fly to try and explain this shite away to you. I'm willing to bet sometime and the next couple days or weeks the bomb from her is going to land at your feet. Do yourself a favor and get out ahead of his bullshite so it doesn't hit you so hard. He has already shown his hand do not allow him to get all the smoke and mirrors in place.
The only thing he can take from you that you cant recover from is your time. Do not waste any more on him.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. I hope you can recover from this relatively unscathed.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 12:14 am to Carolina_Girl
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Carolina_Girl
Well, I was busy earlier, so I didn't have time to weight in here on my e-friend's situation and give you a real response.
Like Bass said, you already know the answer. You didn't make this thread to ask us if he is good or bad. You know he's bad and you're just looking for support in this tough time.
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This guy knows the history of my ex being a serial cheater and completely dishonest and he also knew that he was the first guy I have actually had a serious relationship with since divorcing my ex...8 years ago. He knew all of that and still did it.
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Dude you have no fricking clue who I am or what I have been thru. These others do.
It's just not fair, right?
I assume the reason you haven't been in a serious relationship for awhile is because of the fear that someone will hurt you again.
I wish I could tell you that this is no big deal and not to panic, but this is too big of a sign to just look the other way... as you pointed out. I'm sorry this happened to you. If you want my advice, ditch this loser and move on right now. Not next Friday. Not next week. Not next month. Right now.
If he knows what you've been through and pulled this shite on you anyway, he's a piece of shite and you're way too good for him. Don't try to salvage this relationship, you will only be setting yourself up for a colossal disappointment. You will only make things worse for yourself. Trust me on this. I learned this lesson the hard way. You're a smart lady and I know you will do the right thing.
ETA: Stay strong, CG!
This post was edited on 9/28/16 at 12:24 am
Posted on 9/28/16 at 1:08 am to Carolina_Girl
um you should dump him with the quickness.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 1:08 am to Carolina_Girl
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This post was edited on 9/28/16 at 1:09 am
Posted on 9/28/16 at 8:51 am to Carolina_Girl
So, you suspect that he had some sort of relationship with this other woman? If so, and assuming he wanted to keep that fact from you, as you also seem to suggest based on the fact that he has waited a couple of months to tell you about it, then it seems very strange that he would enlist your help to get back the money, especially if it's only $126. I think the fact that he is asking your help to get the money back suggests that he is not trying to hide anything. Maybe he did think you were friends and that's why he thought it would be no big deal to loan her a small amount of money, and also why he thinks you could get her to pay him back?
Going behind your back can mean a lot of things. Did he take active steps specifically to keep you from finding out, or did he simply not mention it? I could envision a situation in which, if he thought the woman was your friend (maybe she told him you two were closer than you actually are?), he might not think much of making a small loan to her and not necessarily think it warranted a specific mention to you unless she (or some subject related in some way to loaning her money) happened to come up in conversation. Then, after she didn't pay him back, I could see him asking you if you could persuade your friend to pay him back.
Obviously, you know the situation better than I do, but from what you've told us, I don't think it necessarily means that he is cheating or trying to hide anything from you.
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Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
Going behind your back can mean a lot of things. Did he take active steps specifically to keep you from finding out, or did he simply not mention it? I could envision a situation in which, if he thought the woman was your friend (maybe she told him you two were closer than you actually are?), he might not think much of making a small loan to her and not necessarily think it warranted a specific mention to you unless she (or some subject related in some way to loaning her money) happened to come up in conversation. Then, after she didn't pay him back, I could see him asking you if you could persuade your friend to pay him back.
Obviously, you know the situation better than I do, but from what you've told us, I don't think it necessarily means that he is cheating or trying to hide anything from you.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 8:54 am to Evolved Simian
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Privately messaging your girlfriend's "friends" on twitter enough that they feel comfortable asking you for money is pretty shady.
Agreed, but the way I read it, she didn't say anything about the SO privately messaging the woman or even how he came to be in communication with her at all. She said that a few twitter replies, presumably between herself and the woman, is all SHE knows the woman from.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 9:02 am to Carolina_Girl
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I believe, in my heart of hearts, that he was desperate to get that $ back and since he bought the 'close friend' line,
So, he did think she was your friend?
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He KNOWS all of my friends, y'all. Isn't it odd that he actually believed (I think he is using that as a flimsy excuse) she was a 'close friend' yet he has NEVER ONCE heard me mention this chick in any way, shape, form or fashion.
So, he knew she wasn't your friend?
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the excuse she gave for needing the money was something to do with taking a test and a train trip to a work seminar. This girl is supposed to be a hospice nurse.
News flash...I am an ER/Trauma nurse. You NEVER take the NCLEX again unless your license has been revoked or it has been over either 5 or 6 yrs since you last practiced as a nurse. So that was bullshite. And if it was a work related seminar, why the frick take a train? And every Hospice Agency that I have ever dealt with in 15 yrs of being a nurse covers the cost of transportation to and from work related events such as a seminar. Another line of bullshite.
So, he fell for her bullshite? Or did he know she was lying? Or did she not tell him any of that and he is just lying to you? I'm confused about what you're trying to say. First you think he believed she was your friend and then you say, essentially, that he couldn't possibly believe she was your friend. Then you say that she gave him a bullshite reason for needing the money, but you don't indicate whether you think he believed her.
Also, although you have been involved for 7 months, it seems unlikely that he knows ALL of your friends. There are bound to be people you consider friends but haven't seen or talked to in 7 months, or at least not while he happened to be present. I would be surprised if a couple actually knew all of each other's friends after just 7 months.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 9:06 am to Nuts4LSU
Not trying to be a dick but what kind of guy freaks out over 126$ This dude has to be dumb to 1) loan said money 2) be stressed over 100$ 3) bring up the fact that he did it in the first place.
If the chick was comfortable enough to ask him for money then you have to assume they have been in communication for a while. Either that or he is the easiest person to con in the world.
If the chick was comfortable enough to ask him for money then you have to assume they have been in communication for a while. Either that or he is the easiest person to con in the world.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 9:18 am to Carolina_Girl
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I believe, in my heart of hearts, that he was desperate to get that $ back and since he bought the 'close friend' line, thought she would listen to me not only bc of that, but bc he knew I would beat this bitch's arse like she has never been beaten before.
He KNOWS all of my friends, y'all. Isn't it odd that he actually believed (I think he is using that as a flimsy excuse) she was a 'close friend' yet he has NEVER ONCE heard me mention this chick in any way, shape, form or fashion.
Of course, I don't know either of you, so you know the situation much better than anyone here. The facts as you've related them are not enough to draw any firm conclusion. The one fact that you have clearly indicated that seems at odds with the theory that he is cheating is the fact that he told you about it and asked you to help him get the money back.
It seems to me that, if he were cheating on you, especially with someone you barely knew, the last thing he would want to do is anything that would put you on the scent. Your theory that he did it because he was desperate to get the money back is, of course, something only you can decide, but it would be surprising if $126 was enough to make anybody that desperate.
In any event, good luck to you and I hope it works out best for you, however that turns out to be.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 9:23 am to blacknblu
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I'd give him $126 and tell him you two are through. Just tell him you know the real story, and aren't interested in discussing it further. You're almost certain to find out later as long as you keep quiet.
It'll be the most liberating $126 you ever spent.
If she's going to do that, why give him $126, or any amount for that matter? Just tell him it's over and move on.
Posted on 9/28/16 at 10:29 am to Nuts4LSU
He seems really dumb at least in regards to this situation for a number of reasons. As far as what his intentions were it's hard to say. Can you get to his twitter feed?
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