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Serious question..if your S/O did this what would your response be?
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:16 am
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:16 am
My S/O of almost 7 months just dropped a bomb on me today:
He "loaned" a girl he met on twitter over $126 in July by moneygramming it to her. He 'claims' that he thought the girl and I were 'close friends' but I have never met this girl and outside of a few casual twitter replies to posts, I have no idea who she is. I don't know her last name, where she is from..nothing at all.
Then I get a txt from my "S/O" ASKING ME TO CALL THIS CHICK TO SEE IF I COULD GET HER TO PAY HIM BACK BC SHE HAS IGNORED HIS ATTEMPTS AT HAVING HER PAY HIM BACK!!!!!!!!! WHAT in the frick?!
Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
If there was nothing wrong with this, and it was not deceitful and a betrayal of trust, why wouldn't he have talked it over with me or even told me about it when it happened?
This guy knows the history of my ex being a serial cheater and completely dishonest and he also knew that he was the first guy I have actually had a serious relationship with since divorcing my ex...8 years ago. He knew all of that and still did it.
What do y'all think? I seriously need nonbiased opinions here.
Sorry this is so long..I am just hurt beyond belief and that kinda lends itself to rambling.
He "loaned" a girl he met on twitter over $126 in July by moneygramming it to her. He 'claims' that he thought the girl and I were 'close friends' but I have never met this girl and outside of a few casual twitter replies to posts, I have no idea who she is. I don't know her last name, where she is from..nothing at all.
Then I get a txt from my "S/O" ASKING ME TO CALL THIS CHICK TO SEE IF I COULD GET HER TO PAY HIM BACK BC SHE HAS IGNORED HIS ATTEMPTS AT HAVING HER PAY HIM BACK!!!!!!!!! WHAT in the frick?!
Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
If there was nothing wrong with this, and it was not deceitful and a betrayal of trust, why wouldn't he have talked it over with me or even told me about it when it happened?
This guy knows the history of my ex being a serial cheater and completely dishonest and he also knew that he was the first guy I have actually had a serious relationship with since divorcing my ex...8 years ago. He knew all of that and still did it.
What do y'all think? I seriously need nonbiased opinions here.
Sorry this is so long..I am just hurt beyond belief and that kinda lends itself to rambling.
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Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:21 am to Carolina_Girl
I'm a dude, and I think his excuse that he thought y'all were close friends is BS. He's known you for 7 months. He should know who your close friends are.
Beyond the trust question, I would question the sanity of someone that would loan a complete stranger on the internet any sum of money, and I would cut tail and run the moment that person asked me to get involved by asking for the money back.
This guy sounds like a loser.
Beyond the trust question, I would question the sanity of someone that would loan a complete stranger on the internet any sum of money, and I would cut tail and run the moment that person asked me to get involved by asking for the money back.
This guy sounds like a loser.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:21 am to Carolina_Girl
Well, it's not good. I don't know enough to determine if his story has any credibility at all. I find it odd that he would tell you about it if he was up to no good though.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:26 am to GnashRebel
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I find it odd that he would tell you about it if he was up to no good though.
My initial thought too. If he were doing something shady, he wouldn't have tried to get you involved. It just sounds like he was a gullible dumbass.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:31 am to Carolina_Girl
Somethings not right, he's either beyond dumb or lying to you.
Run, don't look back, God has a better fish in the sea for you
Run, don't look back, God has a better fish in the sea for you
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:32 am to Carolina_Girl
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Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
No smart people.
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What do y'all think?
I dont know enough about the situation to tell you what to do. But your S/O seems like a dumbass.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:34 am to jvilletiger25
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If he were doing something shady,
Privately messaging your girlfriend's "friends" on twitter enough that they feel comfortable asking you for money is pretty shady.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:34 am to jvilletiger25
Well, at least you know now that this guy probably isn't the right one for you.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:39 am to Carolina_Girl
sketchy.
Seriously, he may have presented you a great opportunity to get out and move one to someone not questionable.
Good luck.
Seriously, he may have presented you a great opportunity to get out and move one to someone not questionable.
Good luck.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:40 am to GnashRebel
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I find it odd that he would tell you about it if he was up to no good though.
I think that's odd, too. If he was a bad person with questionable motives, why would he tell her what he did? It's almost as if he was actually scammed. LOL. Which, if so, still makes him an incredible idiot.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:40 am to GnashRebel
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find it odd that he would tell you about it if he was up to no good though.
I believe, in my heart of hearts, that he was desperate to get that $ back and since he bought the 'close friend' line, thought she would listen to me not only bc of that, but bc he knew I would beat this bitch's arse like she has never been beaten before.
He KNOWS all of my friends, y'all. Isn't it odd that he actually believed (I think he is using that as a flimsy excuse) she was a 'close friend' yet he has NEVER ONCE heard me mention this chick in any way, shape, form or fashion.
Also, the excuse she gave for needing the money was something to do with taking a test and a train trip to a work seminar. This girl is supposed to be a hospice nurse.
News flash...I am an ER/Trauma nurse. You NEVER take the NCLEX again unless your license has been revoked or it has been over either 5 or 6 yrs since you last practiced as a nurse. So that was bullshite. And if it was a work related seminar, why the frick take a train? And every Hospice Agency that I have ever dealt with in 15 yrs of being a nurse covers the cost of transportation to and from work related events such as a seminar. Another line of bullshite.
This post was edited on 9/27/16 at 10:46 am
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:41 am to Carolina_Girl
Well I think you know what you need to do. Case closed.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:43 am to Carolina_Girl
Seems shady as hell to me. not the loaning $$, but the not telling you.
My advice is to consider you S/O's action compared to actions of previous S/O, then look at the outcomes of those situations. If you see a pattern you don't like, then do the opposite of what you did previously.
My advice is to consider you S/O's action compared to actions of previous S/O, then look at the outcomes of those situations. If you see a pattern you don't like, then do the opposite of what you did previously.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:47 am to Carolina_Girl
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And every Hospice Agency that I have ever dealt with in 15 yrs of being a nurse covers the cost of transportation to and from work related events such as a seminar. Another line of bullshite.
I've never known of any employer in any industry that didn't. It's not even a good lie.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:50 am to Carolina_Girl
I wouldn't be concerned he loaned a random girl some money. Maybe he is a nice guy and he thought he was helping someone.
I wouldn't be concerned if he got scammed because being gullible isn't a crime. Good people trust other people even when its not warranted.
I am concerned as frick he seems so worried about a trivial amount of money (like I can blow that drinking in a NOLA bar one night amount). That amount shouldn't be a big deal to him, and he really should have looked it as charity from the get go if he gave it to a stranger.
Either he is poor or he is cheap, and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with either.
I wouldn't be concerned if he got scammed because being gullible isn't a crime. Good people trust other people even when its not warranted.
I am concerned as frick he seems so worried about a trivial amount of money (like I can blow that drinking in a NOLA bar one night amount). That amount shouldn't be a big deal to him, and he really should have looked it as charity from the get go if he gave it to a stranger.
Either he is poor or he is cheap, and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with either.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:52 am to Carolina_Girl
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Isn't it odd that he actually believed (I think he is using that as a flimsy excuse) she was a 'close friend' yet he has NEVER ONCE heard me mention this chick in any way, shape, form or fashion.
Yep. Strangest part of the whole situation. Some girl online comes at me saying she's a close friend of my wife and needs money, I'm going straight to my wife to let her know. That he didn't is a huge red flag, which I think you see.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:54 am to Carolina_Girl
This is very strange to me. Who borrows $126 dollars exactly from someone? At least round up to $130! 
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:01 am to Hogwarts
I swear this sounds like a cover down situation. Lay the ground work for a good lie before you need to use it. Now when the chick turns out to be cray cray and says he paid for a lay, he has groundwork to build his lie.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:01 am to Carolina_Girl
Best case, this is bad judgement and a red flag nonetheless.
I find it odd that one would work so hard to get back 126 dollars. Is it possibly more?
I find it odd that one would work so hard to get back 126 dollars. Is it possibly more?
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:08 am to Carolina_Girl
Sorry, but he is up to no good and this fails the smell test. He thought he was going to get some poon and it didn't work and now he is on the cover up. End it.
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