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Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:59 pm to South Alabama Tide
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:59 pm to South Alabama Tide
Something tells me you're leaving out some important details about the state of your relationship. I think you're full of crap saying that everything was perfect up until she went through your phone. There is no way she just out of the blue decided to snoop through your phone and it happened to be at the same time you were wasting time on a dating site. She's done it before and I would bet you not only know about it, but her trust issues are something you're aware of and have been a source of contention already. The question is why does she have these issues.
I know you're only 25, but who browses dating sites just for fun? It seems like a boring waste of time to me. I can think of MANY other things to pass my time. Regardless, the fact you even set yourself up for this while in a relationship with someone that you have to have known has some kind of trust issues speaks volumes about your readiness to be married. There is no way you guys were together for 3 years and she just over night developed a need to go through your phone and then leave you.
Anyway, it doesn't sound like she's ready either and has some major trust issues to get a handle on. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you are ready to be married.
Just leave her be and let the pieces fall where they may. What else can you do? Good luck.
I know you're only 25, but who browses dating sites just for fun? It seems like a boring waste of time to me. I can think of MANY other things to pass my time. Regardless, the fact you even set yourself up for this while in a relationship with someone that you have to have known has some kind of trust issues speaks volumes about your readiness to be married. There is no way you guys were together for 3 years and she just over night developed a need to go through your phone and then leave you.
Anyway, it doesn't sound like she's ready either and has some major trust issues to get a handle on. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you are ready to be married.
Just leave her be and let the pieces fall where they may. What else can you do? Good luck.
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Posted on 1/20/16 at 7:01 pm to TbirdSpur2010
Yeah if a guy gave me rules up front for dating him.... I'm running. 
Posted on 1/20/16 at 7:11 pm to hoginthesw
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Yeah if a guy gave me rules up front for dating him.... I'm running.
Ikr?
I think that'd be weird if either gender came into it like that. Some folks overthink this relationship stuff, IMO. Just fricking pay attention to your SO. Especially, if in OP's case, you've been engaged for 3 years, you should know what makes her tick. Especially when it comes to as big an insecurity as being ready to end the relationship over something. There would be plenty of tells. Enough for you to know pretty reasonably that being on a dating site would set her off.
Am I saying I think you're in the wrong by so doing? Not necessarily. Every relationship is different. My wife doesn't give a shite if I look at/talk about other girls. She'll ask me if I think a random gal is hot. We watch porn together. I know where my limits are with her and I don't do shite that will potentially antagonize her or arouse any fears/suspicions. Basic shite that a couple should do for each other.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 8:49 pm to TigerTalker16
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Holy shite! You must have been a freak in your younger days and I mean that in a good way. I like the way you think. Have an upvote.
Whatchu talkin' bout younger days??
Hell, my freak just got stronger with age. It's how all Carolina girls roll.
"Lady in the sheets but a freak in the bed" is our unofficial state motto, son.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 9:04 pm to Carolina_Girl
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Hell, my freak just got stronger with age. It's how all Carolina girls roll.
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"Lady in the sheets but a freak in the bed" is our unofficial state motto, son.
Oh yeah...I hear ya! Age is just a number, right?
This post was edited on 1/20/16 at 9:06 pm
Posted on 1/20/16 at 9:06 pm to South Alabama Tide
I was married 17 years to a woman like this, RUN AWAY WHILE YOU STILL CAN
Posted on 1/20/16 at 9:56 pm to Dawgholio
If you're truly innocent and she doesn't believe you...she wanted an out.
She did you a favor
She did you a favor
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:14 pm to South Alabama Tide
You didn't convince me either.
You fricked up.
Should've said something along the lines that you would never actually cheat and don't want anyone other than her but you were curious and was simply doing a bit of window shopping and you found the profiles funny.
Or tell her you were fapping to them, porn didn't feel right but the fantasy of another girl crept into your mind because you're a male and males have instincts to collect a herd of females. blahbllahblahba.ablahblah
You fricked up.
Should've said something along the lines that you would never actually cheat and don't want anyone other than her but you were curious and was simply doing a bit of window shopping and you found the profiles funny.
Or tell her you were fapping to them, porn didn't feel right but the fantasy of another girl crept into your mind because you're a male and males have instincts to collect a herd of females. blahbllahblahba.ablahblah
Posted on 1/21/16 at 12:38 am to Carolina_Girl
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Some of those things are funny as hell. I've seen some of the funnier ones posted on twitter and I can see why someone would scan them for a laugh and nothing more.
I am of the opinion that he would never have left evidence on there or his phone within her reach w/o his knowledge that she was looking at it if he had anything to hide.
That's just me, though.
My wife and I created a BS account just to look at one of her "friends" profile, I got so tired of all the e-mails I changed the profiles e-mail address to hers and she bitched for weeks as I refused to give her the password to get her address off. Hell I would forward some of better (funnier) of them to her.
OP if your betrothed is that insecure you need to just bail and thank your lucky stars you found out now, life is too short for that nonsense.
Posted on 1/21/16 at 5:26 am to scrooster
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I love nurses. My ex-wife (24 yrs) is a nurse ... they're game for just about anything.
My current wife (15 years) is cool with it too.
So much fun.
Carolina Girl ... you are da bomb!
Thank ya, rooster!
By the way, we REALLY need to organize a get-together for all of us Gamecocks (sans gamecockboi) on here to tailgate together at a game this season. You know with our crew on here we'd have one helluva good time!
Posted on 1/21/16 at 6:45 am to Carolina_Girl
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"Lady in the sheets but a freak in the bed"
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Hell, my freak just got stronger with age.
But your sphincter muscles get weaker if you are sheeting in bed, you need to get some Depends as sheet happens when you get older.
Posted on 1/21/16 at 9:33 am to Cheese Grits
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But your sphincter muscles get weaker if you are sheeting in bed, you need to get some Depends as sheet happens when you get older.
Can honestly say that sheet hasn't happened to me. Kegel exercises have multiple uses. Men would be much happier creatures if more women recognized this fact and utilized the exercise.
This post was edited on 1/21/16 at 9:34 am
Posted on 1/21/16 at 9:46 am to Carolina_Girl
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Thank ya, rooster!
By the way, we REALLY need to organize a get-together for all of us Gamecocks (sans gamecockboi) on here to tailgate together at a game this season. You know with our crew on here we'd have one helluva good time!
I think we would. We do need to do that.
Posted on 1/21/16 at 12:40 pm to 3nOut
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not to out myself, but has anybody told this idiot about private mode in safari?
not that i use it or anything. i heard about it. from a friend. that died.
diddy told you about it?
Posted on 1/21/16 at 12:40 pm to South Alabama Tide
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I have been with my fiancé for a while now. Over 3 years to be exact.
How long have you been engaged?
Posted on 1/21/16 at 4:44 pm to South Alabama Tide
Did you create a profile on one of these sites you're talking about or were you just looking?
I think that fact determines if it's you or her that needs to grow up.
I think that fact determines if it's you or her that needs to grow up.
Posted on 1/22/16 at 1:09 pm to South Alabama Tide
thread is TL;DR but...I did read the OP...here is what I think:
she wants out dude...something that stupid and simple that could be talked through and she rolls that easily...she done...it was just something she could use to justify what she is feeling...likely, somebody is in her head feeding her shite and it has made her doubt what her future is all about, but she knows it ain't with you...it hurts...but it will be a blessing down the road...
my story:
had a great chick I was engaged to...virgin, hot, blonde, caring, smart, etc....wife material...she started getting cold feet when we actually started planning the wedding and I could tell...well...my dumbass goes to a party with some friends back home...we were almost all military and on leave...she couldn't go...well long story short I kiss this chick I dated in HS goodbye at the end of the night...that was it...no sex...nothing...I was drunk and slipped her some tongue...next morning...I didn't hide it...I called her and told her and asked forgiveness...she told me it was over on the phone that day...on the phone. I never even saw her again...we had been dating for over a year and she was with me all through boot camp.....came to see me graduate and everything...we were due to get married and move to my first duty station in like 3 months...I have not seen her since 2001...that conversation was our last...we went from in love and getting married...to complete strangers in a day...and it was the best thing that ever happened to either of us...we weren't ready...I def wasn't, and she wasn't fulfilling her dreams...we would have divorced in no time...things work out the way they are supposed to..I am married now to my wife ( I met her a year later) and we have been together over a decade and have three beautiful kids...
TL;DR version: you fricked up but its a blessing in disguise
she wants out dude...something that stupid and simple that could be talked through and she rolls that easily...she done...it was just something she could use to justify what she is feeling...likely, somebody is in her head feeding her shite and it has made her doubt what her future is all about, but she knows it ain't with you...it hurts...but it will be a blessing down the road...
my story:
had a great chick I was engaged to...virgin, hot, blonde, caring, smart, etc....wife material...she started getting cold feet when we actually started planning the wedding and I could tell...well...my dumbass goes to a party with some friends back home...we were almost all military and on leave...she couldn't go...well long story short I kiss this chick I dated in HS goodbye at the end of the night...that was it...no sex...nothing...I was drunk and slipped her some tongue...next morning...I didn't hide it...I called her and told her and asked forgiveness...she told me it was over on the phone that day...on the phone. I never even saw her again...we had been dating for over a year and she was with me all through boot camp.....came to see me graduate and everything...we were due to get married and move to my first duty station in like 3 months...I have not seen her since 2001...that conversation was our last...we went from in love and getting married...to complete strangers in a day...and it was the best thing that ever happened to either of us...we weren't ready...I def wasn't, and she wasn't fulfilling her dreams...we would have divorced in no time...things work out the way they are supposed to..I am married now to my wife ( I met her a year later) and we have been together over a decade and have three beautiful kids...
TL;DR version: you fricked up but its a blessing in disguise
Posted on 1/22/16 at 1:39 pm to Carolina_Girl
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Men would be much happier creatures if more women recognized this fact and utilized the exercise.
:kige:
Posted on 1/23/16 at 10:41 am to South Alabama Tide
She sounds really insecure as long as you did nothing else in the past to violate her trust. Move on.
Posted on 1/23/16 at 10:43 am to Carolina_Girl
You are quite possibly the most awesome female on the face of this planet.
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