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Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:34 am to South Alabama Tide
Well you seem to be following the best path you can for now, giver her time. Higgs laid out some good advice. If she isn't looking for a way out she'll reconcile. And you will have learned a very valuable lesson:
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:34 am to Stacked
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Yeah, dude, you sound pretty immature. Us guys unfortunately forget about shite daily that we look at on our phone. You're arguinment is the same I would expect from a 14-15 year old who got caught doing somethin they shouldn't. You need to step your game up in the debate department. She's probably eating you alive there and that's why she's bored and looking for someone more mature.
Like I said before. If I had the intentions of cheating, I would not be on here looking for advice on a completely different situation. This advice would not help me if I had cheated. The advice then would involve how to get back your fiancé who caught you cheating. Probably would be a lot more bleak as far as my chances go. As far as seeking someone else, she was at a point with me that she wanted to be by me every waking second so it wasn't a matter of losing feelings for me. She was just so invested in me that when she saw what the site was she drew conclusions instantly and was very hurt. All this is understandable because she is a sensitive person.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:36 am to South Alabama Tide
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The reason that we are in this mess is because one morning I was on my phone and laughing at some of the online dating sites. The people on them more than anything. Why I looked it up is still puzzling to myself but I know it wasn't in pursuit of anyone else. I had the intentions of actually showing her some of the people on the site.
Also this is retarded. There are ways to laugh at dumb dating site profiles without having a dating site profile. Maybe you don't want to settle down
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:37 am to South Alabama Tide
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Well for starters, I would admit if I was on there and ask for different advice if I had been on there to cheat
I didn't say you were on there to cheat. I said you were curious what's still out there. It's fun to look. Doesn't mean you're gonna even contact any of them but to say you were only there to look for a laugh is stupid. And she knows it's stupid also. Why didn't you ever get around to being able to show her the profiles you were laughing at before she caught you? I'm sure it slipped your mind.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:40 am to South Alabama Tide
You don't look at porn? if you don't look at porn because of her jealousy then that's an issue. Sounds like you may have a jealous female who is projecting her guilty feelings into you. In my experience anyone who acts that way is usually the one who is guilty of something.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:41 am to InfantryDawg
Porn hurts relationships....fact
So he's smart about that
So he's smart about that
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:43 am to Old Sarge
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Porn hurts relationships....fact
So he's smart about that
So does still frequenting dating websites.
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Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:43 am to Patton
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Also this is retarded. There are ways to laugh at dumb dating site profiles without having a dating site profile. Maybe you don't want to settle down
I don't have a profile. As I stated. It was a site that provides profiles to view before sign up. You have to pay for it and provide an email. It was purely for laughs, honestly. Very immature and stupid on my part to even navigate to it, but I did and I regret it. But I regret it with the understanding that no infidelity type feelings were present.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:44 am to South Alabama Tide
OP .... count your lucky stars. Consider yourself getting off cheap.
Move on and get you another one.
1 - 3 yrs is too long to be engaged.
2 - she's like a lot of females I guess ... curiosity killed the cat. But if you failed to break her of violating your privacy, or if she wants to make you pay for being a typical male, then be glad you're rid of her.
3 - Women want stability and security. If you give them that, and you act like you've got some balls, you can pretty much live a happy married life one day.
4 - Don't automatically think you did something wrong ... women don't think they do anything wrong, most of them anyways. So don't blame it on yourself - turn it around on her ... call her up and say, "hey, frick it. Bye." Put some closure on it and move on.
5 - Don't be a pussy about it.
6 - Good luck with the next one.
Move on and get you another one.
1 - 3 yrs is too long to be engaged.
2 - she's like a lot of females I guess ... curiosity killed the cat. But if you failed to break her of violating your privacy, or if she wants to make you pay for being a typical male, then be glad you're rid of her.
3 - Women want stability and security. If you give them that, and you act like you've got some balls, you can pretty much live a happy married life one day.
4 - Don't automatically think you did something wrong ... women don't think they do anything wrong, most of them anyways. So don't blame it on yourself - turn it around on her ... call her up and say, "hey, frick it. Bye." Put some closure on it and move on.
5 - Don't be a pussy about it.
6 - Good luck with the next one.
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Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:45 am to South Alabama Tide
Alright, this has gone on long enough. What site are we talking about here? This answer is going to provide quite a bit of context into the argument y'all had.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:45 am to Old Sarge
I have never understood that. I am not arguing that it is a positive but if you can enjoy it for what it is then it should not be an issue. Me and my wife have watched tons of porn and it has never caused an issue.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:48 am to Stacked
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I didn't say you were on there to cheat. I said you were curious what's still out there. It's fun to look. Doesn't mean you're gonna even contact any of them but to say you were only there to look for a laugh is stupid. And she knows it's stupid also. Why didn't you ever get around to being able to show her the profiles you were laughing at before she caught you? I'm sure it slipped your mind.
Look man, I get where you're coming from. And it would make sense if I wasn't happy with who I'm with. I had plenty of years to play the field, I made the commitment to get married and I still feel that way. I wasn't on the site for more than maybe 5-10 minutes at the most. She was asleep when I was browsing and watching tv, so when I got tired, I went to sleep. While I was asleep, she got my phone, saw what was still in safari, and freaked out and woke me up. I tried explaining everything but she didn't want to listen to what I had to say, so she packed and left. I tried explaining during the entire time of her packing but she was convinced I was lying. So wrote the letter and am continuing to fight to be able to bring the truth out.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:49 am to InfantryDawg
You are an exception to the rule then
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:50 am to Stacked
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Alright, this has gone on long enough. What site are we talking about here? This answer is going to provide quite a bit of context into the argument y'all had.
Single Asian Men of the South?
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:51 am to South Alabama Tide
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Well we have had a few fights prior that was a result of me just having perverted conversations with my high school and college buddies. This was the typical things like "oh you got a new girl? How are her boobs?" This happened a few times and we had big fights but we didn't end anything. This was the first time she gave the ring back and said I'm not marrying you.
Let me tell you something man. My girlfriend dumped me in December and I had another chick almost immediately, okay, immediately. This new girl and I slept in the same bed at a party, cuddled, all that.
You and I? We understand, I was single, who the frick cares, right? Wrong, bro. Women care.
If you're going to tell her about something like that, do it immediately. If you're going to talk about tits, other chicks, never do it in front of her.
Women. Never. Under. Stand.
Never. Not until they're like 30+ and have given up on life, or they're simply not the marrying type.
Look, if you got a chick you want to marry: You gotta be more conscious of yourself and those who talk to you. She'll be back, it's a three year relationship and unless she can show you the ACCOUNTS (if you had one, you are definitely fricked) then you should be fine.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 10:54 am to Old Sarge
I agree in most cases it could cause issues I am just saying I cannot understand why. Me and my wife were both married before and both our ex spouses were crazy jealous psychos. We promised each other we would never be that way. Plus when I first went to her apartment she had a stack of Hustler Barley Legal mags and movies. I knew it was true love.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 11:02 am to South Alabama Tide
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she found my phone while I was sleeping and freaked out, as you'd expect, I attempted to explain and she obviously thinks I am lying when I tried explaining everything.
What if you found out she was logging in to an online dating site and she gave you the same explanation? Would you believe her?
Posted on 1/20/16 at 11:02 am to South Alabama Tide
I'm not reading the thread.
She is either batshit crazy or had other things pissing her off and she had one foot out the door anyway. This way she can claim moral high ground and get sympathy from everyone. She's probably been talking shite about you.
She gave you the ring back. Go slay some strange and move on with your life. You dodged a bullet.
She is either batshit crazy or had other things pissing her off and she had one foot out the door anyway. This way she can claim moral high ground and get sympathy from everyone. She's probably been talking shite about you.
She gave you the ring back. Go slay some strange and move on with your life. You dodged a bullet.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 11:04 am to Stacked
I believe the site was called luvfree or something. I clicked on a couple but clicked off the ones with sign ups. Only went to the ones with a homepage of profiles from the area on it. I did not go into deep detail with it. Simply scrolled briefly. Got my laughs and went to the rant.
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