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Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:03 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:03 pm
I know this will get shite on but I hope I will get some legit answers.
I am 43 and recently divorced. I started getting back in shape by riding a racing bicycles after a 13 year hiatus. One of my female riding friends is recently divorced from a pretty bad situation where her husband cheated on her the whole time they were married. She found this out toward the end.
Well, she and I have been hanging out and have spent quite a bit of time together and have shared our stories with one another. As time passed, we became closer and talked quite a bit through text and whatnot. Well, as you would expect, I like her. After a while, I told her that I liked her. She told me that she wasn't ready to date because she still had some anger from her marriage. I told her I understood.
Things were still good and we still had a good time together. My affinity for her only grew. I felt like there was a mutual attraction there so I pushed a little harder. That was my mistake. Now she has withdrawn and isn't quite as close to me now.
Have I fricked this up?
What should I do?
I am 43 and recently divorced. I started getting back in shape by riding a racing bicycles after a 13 year hiatus. One of my female riding friends is recently divorced from a pretty bad situation where her husband cheated on her the whole time they were married. She found this out toward the end.
Well, she and I have been hanging out and have spent quite a bit of time together and have shared our stories with one another. As time passed, we became closer and talked quite a bit through text and whatnot. Well, as you would expect, I like her. After a while, I told her that I liked her. She told me that she wasn't ready to date because she still had some anger from her marriage. I told her I understood.
Things were still good and we still had a good time together. My affinity for her only grew. I felt like there was a mutual attraction there so I pushed a little harder. That was my mistake. Now she has withdrawn and isn't quite as close to me now.
Have I fricked this up?
What should I do?
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Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:06 pm to asphinctersayswhat
If you're asking this den of degenerates what to do, then your problems are deeper than your obvious lack of social development.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:10 pm to No Colors
To be honest, I have been out of the game for quite some time. I expect to get some shite from here but maybe therr is someone that has been in a similar situation.
Also, I may be a little socially awkward but she is too.
Eta I figured I would get a good laugh out of the responses too
Also, I may be a little socially awkward but she is too.
Eta I figured I would get a good laugh out of the responses too
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 9:11 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:16 pm to asphinctersayswhat
Best thing for you to do is let it go completely. Move on to the next girl, if she shows interest, great, but go ahead and get her out of your mind completely.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:19 pm to asphinctersayswhat
What does your sphincter say?
Sorry, I couldn't resist
.....it was low-hanging fruit.
OK, now I'm done, I'm sorry
Sorry, I couldn't resist
.....it was low-hanging fruit.
OK, now I'm done, I'm sorry
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:19 pm to vuvuzela
Yeah, I thought about that too but we are around each other quite a bit with our activities. Plus, she hasn't completely shut me out, just backed off a bit.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:26 pm to asphinctersayswhat
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Have I fricked this up?
Not completely, but you do need to back off a tad. You've expressed your interest, but you gotta respect her wishes and give her a little space. Her trust in guys has been (rightfully, it sounds like) shattered, and you need to continue to continue to build up a rapport with her as a true friend with no (obvious to her) strings attached.
quote:
What should I do?
Give her time and continue to be there for her. Yeah, you risk being friendzoned, but it's the right thing to do by her, IMHO.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:28 pm to asphinctersayswhat
Show interest in another woman. Works like a charm.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:28 pm to TbirdSpur2010
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Yeah, you risk being friendzoned
I'm afraid it's too late.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:34 pm to asphinctersayswhat
That ship has probably sailed. Scorned women are fricked up till the day they die. No exceptions. But when she's ready play, she will, with somebody that reminds her of her ex.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:38 pm to Vols&Shaft83
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I'm afraid it's too late.
What makes you say that?
Eta once before, I felt she was withdrawing and I just backed off completely. In a day or so, she was back texting me on the reg.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 9:50 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:46 pm to asphinctersayswhat
Im going on 14 years to wife number 2 and I still don't understand them
Good luck
Good luck
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:49 pm to Old Sarge
Wow, that is unusual.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:59 pm to Vols&Shaft83
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Vols&Shaft83
quote:meh, nevermind
woman questions
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:01 pm to asphinctersayswhat
I would give her space, back off from any relationship talk, and just start hanging out again without expectations.
If you are recently divorced, that might concern her that you are bouncing back too quickly. And she is wounded from her situation.
I had the same issue, but it was me who was the one whose spouse cheated on them, and it took me almost 2 years to get over the betrayal. I lost one possible relationship because the girl got too aggressive too quickly for me. I was stung and hurting and being very cautious. Might be the same with her.
Just give her time without any strings. Enjoy just spending time with her and wait for her for a while.
If you are recently divorced, that might concern her that you are bouncing back too quickly. And she is wounded from her situation.
I had the same issue, but it was me who was the one whose spouse cheated on them, and it took me almost 2 years to get over the betrayal. I lost one possible relationship because the girl got too aggressive too quickly for me. I was stung and hurting and being very cautious. Might be the same with her.
Just give her time without any strings. Enjoy just spending time with her and wait for her for a while.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:02 pm to Vols&Shaft83
quote:
I'm afraid it's too late.
Maybe. Maybe not.
Depends. You never know with the wimmenz.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:08 pm to kywildcatfanone
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kywildcatfanone
Thanks
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:12 pm to TbirdSpur2010
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Depends. You never know with the wimmenz.
Fair point, wimmenz is peculiar. I just think that if a woman gets uncomfortable when you express your feelings to the point of being evasive, it's time to move on.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:23 pm to Vols&Shaft83
Well, we have hung out since this all started but the communication in text form has slowed.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 10:31 pm to asphinctersayswhat
What was the delta T from when you first told her you liked her, she said not now, and then you pushed again?
If it's anything greater than a few months, you've been friend zoned or she is banging a mutual friend. Or both.
If it's anything greater than a few months, you've been friend zoned or she is banging a mutual friend. Or both.
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