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What constitutes cheating?
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:35 pm
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:35 pm
I was having this conversation the other day about what cheating is and I found it interesting that people have different opinions on what cheating actually is.
It's my opinion that a situation isnt cheating unless an overtly sexual act takes place
It's my opinion that a situation isnt cheating unless an overtly sexual act takes place
This post was edited on 5/17/16 at 2:45 pm
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Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:38 pm to WestCoastAg
Depends on the definition of "is".
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:41 pm to WestCoastAg
I always just kind have the opinion that you shouldn't be doing anything that you wouldn't want your SO doing.
Now, that can be tricky, because not everyone has the same security and jealousy levels. So basically, I don't know.
Now, that can be tricky, because not everyone has the same security and jealousy levels. So basically, I don't know.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:43 pm to WestCoastAg
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It's my opinion that a situation isnt cheating until something goes into something else
So, if you're wife were to let some guy she works with feel her boobs all the time, you'd be cool with that? Or if she made out with this same guy over and over again?
There aren't many sexual scenarios where something from a man(or a woman) doesn't go into the other person in some way, be it a tongue in a mouth or a HONK! in BEEP!.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:44 pm to CharlieTiger
I guess a better way to put it is an overtly sexual act
Posted on 5/17/16 at 2:46 pm to WestCoastAg
As long as your SO knows your definition of it, and you know your SO's definition of it, you shouldn't get into trouble.
When I first got married, my wife came across an email from an ex of mine. Now, the ex had been an ex for 5 or so year, and we were still somewhat cordial to each other, and my wife knew we emailed every now and then. But seeing the email made the situation tangible to my wife and she considered it almost cheating. I didn't agree, and knew it was innocent, but stopped emailing with the ex immediately.
When I first got married, my wife came across an email from an ex of mine. Now, the ex had been an ex for 5 or so year, and we were still somewhat cordial to each other, and my wife knew we emailed every now and then. But seeing the email made the situation tangible to my wife and she considered it almost cheating. I didn't agree, and knew it was innocent, but stopped emailing with the ex immediately.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 3:23 pm to WestCoastAg
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What constitutes cheating?
Anal.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 3:25 pm to WestCoastAg
If you question whether it's cheating or not, it's cheating
Posted on 5/17/16 at 3:26 pm to WestCoastAg
Having inappropriate conversations and definitely anything past that
Posted on 5/17/16 at 3:26 pm to WestCoastAg
Cheating for her is whatever I deem it to be, and for me whatever she seems it to be.
If we couldn't accept each other's terms we'd have never married.
If we couldn't accept each other's terms we'd have never married.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 3:40 pm to WestCoastAg
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It's my opinion that a situation isnt cheating unless an overtly sexual act takes place
Do solo acts count? If so I may have cheated with my hand or one of my neighbors.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 5:33 pm to WestCoastAg
A Catholic coworker once went to a priest to ask if a blowjob qualified as adultery. The priest said no, so in his opinion he was in the clear!
The answers you'll get will be all over the place. For me I think Funky Tide 8 had the best answer: "...you shouldn't be doing anything that you wouldn't want your SO doing."
The answers you'll get will be all over the place. For me I think Funky Tide 8 had the best answer: "...you shouldn't be doing anything that you wouldn't want your SO doing."
Posted on 5/17/16 at 5:56 pm to WestCoastAg
anything you wouldnt be ok with your SO doing is cheating in my book
Posted on 5/17/16 at 5:56 pm to WestCoastAg
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What constitutes cheating?
I define it anything that can get in the way of your relationship. If that boils down to simply flirting and your SO gets upset and it gets into your relationship, stop. If you insist on doing it, get out of your relationship.
Emailing, texting, aggressive flirting can all frick up a relationship so while they aren't "cheating", they are still cheating.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 6:03 pm to Warfarer
Talking. Looking at for more than 3 seconds.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 7:10 pm to DanMullins4Life
Getting caught.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 7:30 pm to WestCoastAg
It largely depends on the mindset. For instance some things are always cheating (like sex) but a drunken kiss with some random person wouldn't be IMO. On the other hand, merely hanging out with someone who are emotionally and physically attracted to might constitute a level of emotional infidelity.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 7:36 pm to WestCoastAg
There is no adequate definition. But, you know it, when you know it.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 7:38 pm to WestCoastAg
Varies from couple to couple.
Have to know each other's boundaries/jealousies.
Have to know each other's boundaries/jealousies.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 7:54 pm to Roger Klarvin
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but a drunken kiss with some random person wouldn't be IMO.
That would be cheating, it's just cheating that will most likely be forgiven.
If that happened over and over with different people, I'm guessing you'd probably be upset over it
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