re: I want to be in a coma

Most people older than 16 have experienced something like this before dude, it's not like you're the first/last/only one going through shite. I agree with what someone else said, definitely don't drink your misery away. Been there, done that, and got the life-altering DWI to prove it. The last thing you want is to make the situation worse and 9 times out of 10 drinking to "forget" makes it worse.

I also tried the "banging it out with a different woman" approach and it never really solved much, but it does make you feel better to know that other women still want a piece from you.

all through history people have died for someone they loved.

so many books and songs and art about or from the terror of a broken heart.

i can't breathe here. my place is her.

she's moving onto europe and west coast.

i can't stand to stay here.

i don't drink much.

i smoke.

i dated someone for 5 years through college. that breakup ruined me for 2 years.

this has a different feel. this wasn't just lust. it was destiny.

i've banged it out a few times in the last couple weeks. everytime it sinks me into the worst feeling.

earlier today i picked a girl up form her place, drove about 2 miles and told her i had to bring her back.

Definitely don't see her again, at least not any time within the next few months. Don't talk to her, text her, post shite on her Facebook, nothing. The sooner you remove yourself from the situation the sooner you can start moving forward. Give her the space she apparently wants, then if she ends up missing you enough to come crawling back evaluate the situation again. By that time you may have a new woman you think the world of, or at least you've healed enough to take a step back and see if that's what you still want.

For all you know, this wasn't even the best woman out there for you. I know I went through similar emotions after a bad breakup with a girl I had been dating for 6 years and literally traveled the world with. Took me a while to pick myself back up again, but it wasn't until I fully healed and met others that I finally realized that I hadn't been myself AT ALL around this woman and she didn't even really know who I truly was. I told myself that the next one that came along I'd be myself from beginning to bitter end, and only then did I meet someone I'm truly compatible with.

If you don't listen to any other parts of this, at least listen to the part about not talking to her, texting her, etc. Every time you do it'll be the equivalent of picking a fresh scab, opening the wound right back up again and restarting the healing process. That's the most important thing you can do, period.

Good for her on the Europe thing. You should think about doing something like that...get away for a while.

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Let paranoia get the best of me

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You don't say. I'm like, totally shocked.

I will never understand you people. You break up, it is over. Cut them out of your life, it will speed the healing. Do not stay FB friends, don't call, don't text, don't contact them.

This thread makes me want to go back in time to when men weren't pussies.

Heartbreak is understandable. But you have some real soul searching to do if it brings you to the point that you're at. Life goes on. Bad shite happens sometimes. Learn to love yourself and accept that you can obtain happiness and contentment without being intimately tied to another person.

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She knows I'm miserably in love with her. She's acting whimsical. Out of nowhere she texted to come over, watch late night movies and order our favorite pizza. She also wanted me to proof read a cover letter for a job in Oregon. That was her main reason for coming over. I was devastated that the job wasn't here. And then was informed she's going to Germany and Amsterdam in October, with no return flight booked. Said she'll come back if things materialize with a job in a place she wants to live.

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What a count

"She Gone" - DDA