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Posted on 3/6/14 at 6:55 pm to CtotheVrzrbck
Is it too early to start planning a divorce party? I've got plenty of strippers and they will provide the blow.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 6:59 pm to Hawgeye
Never been through one but have dealt with lots of people who have. To the extent you can work out everything or most things prior to filing certainly that makes the process and stress that goes with it more manageable.
Where custody of children is concerned we now have a law favoring joint custody LINK but at this point I don't think it has caused much of a change in the way judges decide cases. What is in the child's best interest is and always has been paramount and the judge has great discretion in making that determination. I think it accurate to say that the mother gets custody unless father has solid evidence that mother is bad. Historically it has always been that way. You generally see joint custody in cases where the parties agree to it.
Where custody of children is concerned we now have a law favoring joint custody LINK but at this point I don't think it has caused much of a change in the way judges decide cases. What is in the child's best interest is and always has been paramount and the judge has great discretion in making that determination. I think it accurate to say that the mother gets custody unless father has solid evidence that mother is bad. Historically it has always been that way. You generally see joint custody in cases where the parties agree to it.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:01 pm to Hawgeye
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Yea, she said it. I'm not sure what causes that in people. Is it money? Is it greed? Is it an inflated self worth?
You said her parents have apologized for her in the past,, so I'd assume she wasn't "raised like this"? Have you provided her with a completely different and materialistic life that she didn't have before? Have her "friends" been divorcing a lot? In these divorces,, mucho money, things, etc., been changing hands?
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:04 pm to Pigfeet
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I believe you are incorrect as far as child support. Any person can have their payments decreased if the payee has a loss in income, not sure about the alimony.
The judge told my buddy to get a different job or work more hours.
So he gets a different job, a few years go by he advances in the field, she finds out he is making 40k a year more now than then, protests for more child support and back pay.
He pays for every thing from school to sports related stuff, keeps them 2 full weeks out of the month (basically half a year they stay with him) he doesn't have joint custody (he protested for it).
She hasn't worked since the divorce took place 5 years ago.
This post was edited on 3/6/14 at 7:06 pm
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:07 pm to Ole Geauxt
No, her friends are all still married.
This pretty much started going down hill when I was looking for a ring and 1 1/2 ct diamond wasn't big enough. So, she has a 2 ct rock on her finger.
Her parents are cool. They own quite a bit of things, but they're more along the lines of farmers. She was semi raised with a golden spoon, but not fully. Her parents are both very hard working people and I respect the hell outta them.
This pretty much started going down hill when I was looking for a ring and 1 1/2 ct diamond wasn't big enough. So, she has a 2 ct rock on her finger.
Her parents are cool. They own quite a bit of things, but they're more along the lines of farmers. She was semi raised with a golden spoon, but not fully. Her parents are both very hard working people and I respect the hell outta them.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:14 pm to Hawgeye
I'm just not grasping it then.. It just sounds like the "appreciation" of things has been taken for granted by her and in turn, has left her? Unfortunately, this is probably fairly common.
I'm sorry, man..
I'm sorry, man..
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:15 pm to DaleDenton
The law on child support is pretty cut and dry. The judge may say he should get a better job, but not sure he can order it.
Not trying to say you are wrong or argue, but if my child support is based on a 6 figure salary, and I lost that job, then took a job making 75,000, then I have every right to an adjustment to my child support. Now if I get a promotion and start making more, then its up to the other party to sue for an increase. Said party can do this twice a year. I had to provide a copy of my w2 to the ex, guess it was a way of her knowing if our children deserved an increase in child support.
Hopefully someone on here knows how this works and can clarify it.
Not trying to say you are wrong or argue, but if my child support is based on a 6 figure salary, and I lost that job, then took a job making 75,000, then I have every right to an adjustment to my child support. Now if I get a promotion and start making more, then its up to the other party to sue for an increase. Said party can do this twice a year. I had to provide a copy of my w2 to the ex, guess it was a way of her knowing if our children deserved an increase in child support.
Hopefully someone on here knows how this works and can clarify it.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:16 pm to Hawgeye
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So, she has a 2 ct rock on her finger
will need an address before we can move forward with this discussion.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:20 pm to Pigfeet
capish...
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:23 pm to Hawgeye
Another thing before you file or let her know your intentions before you go through with it if you decide to, get your name off her credit cards, hers off yours, cancel them if possible. Seem maxing out credit cards then trying to stick you with the debt during the divorce is all the rage these days.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:23 pm to Pigfeet
I'd say your assessment is pretty accurate regarding child support. Oftentimes a divorce decree will provide that once a year the non-custodial parent will provide the custodial parent with proof of income and it is for the purpose of calculating child support payments. Judges pretty much are going to adhere to the guidelines LINK although there is really no limit as to how often a party may seek an increase/decrease in support in any given time period.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:28 pm to Ole Geauxt
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capish...
once address is provided, I'll swing down there and pick you up. I'll have beer, whiskey and a Marshal Tucker Band cassette in the truck. You will need to bring the ball peen hammer and gloves.
edit: I'm kidding, of course.
This post was edited on 3/6/14 at 7:29 pm
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:32 pm to Ole Geauxt
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I'm just not grasping it then..
His wife isn't happy within herself and she seems to be filling her void with materialistic things but that is an endless ladder. Perhaps her parents even were pushovers and coddled her to a point of entitlement unknowingly and unwillingly.
Hawgeye probably has a weakness of always saying 'yes' to her therefore causing a building of resentment and stress. I am sure the innocent little girl probably prolonged the situation until now.
The majority on here will thumb their nose towards counseling but why would one not want to better themselves and their life? Pretty easy answer. No one wants to look deep inside yourself and that is what is wife is avoiding and perhaps him too to some degree.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:33 pm to Hawgeye
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This pretty much started going down hill when I was looking for a ring and 1 1/2 ct diamond wasn't big enough.
ATTENTION MALE SPECIES! This is a red flag! If your girlfriend insists on a a minimum size ring, RUN THE OTHER frickING WAY!
Not trying to rub salt in the wound, Hawgeye. Women like that just piss me the frick off.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:36 pm to SunHog
Is this where we start talking about Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
Counseling will work, but it will only work if all parties involved agree there is a problem and want to resolve it.
Counseling will work, but it will only work if all parties involved agree there is a problem and want to resolve it.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:37 pm to Pigfeet
[quote] I'll have beer, whiskey and a Marshal Tucker Band cassette in the truck. You will need to bring the ball peen hammer and gloves.[/quote
Let's not forget the shovels..
(kidding of course)
just spit on my eye pad.
Let's not forget the shovels..
(kidding of course)
just spit on my eye pad.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:42 pm to SunHog
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The majority on here will thumb their nose towards counseling but why would one not want to better themselves and their life?
Dude, I go see a counselor all of the time. I love it. Hell, I'll go just to talk shite about anything. Keeps my yin and yang balanced. If people can afford it, then everyone should have a good counselor.
Went today, and discussed the Ukraine and the Keystone pipeline out on the balcony overlooking Hillcrest.
There is just something refreshing about sharing shite with someone that isn't a friend, family, or co-worker.
This post was edited on 3/6/14 at 7:46 pm
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:43 pm to DaleDenton
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Counseling will work, but it will only work if all parties involved agree there is a problem and want to resolve it.
Correct.
I'd suggest he interview the best counselor that fits his goals and attend himself regardless of the outcome of the marriage. You cannot make counseling work if you're not ready to transform your life. I'm just alluding to the fact he probably has a hand in the current situation he isn't addressing. Becoming more self aware is extremely powerful.
Plus, it would show is wife he is determined to be a better person and he will be leaving her arse behind shortly if she doesn't right the ship.
Posted on 3/6/14 at 7:43 pm to Miz Piggy
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If your girlfriend insists on a a minimum size ring, house, car, or swimming hole, RUN THE OTHER frickING WAY!
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