re: WWYD, If You Found a Friends Probably Stolen Nude Photos Were Posted Online?

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I am saying that you are a pussy for not telling her yourself - for emailing her anonymously

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These things only lead to two things awkward situations and loss of friendships, sorry I am not an a-hole

You asked what we would do. I would go to the person. That's my answer

Except now she is going to feel ashamed around everybody because it could be anybody she knows.

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Pretty much.

I saw a non nude photo in a thread with other women as well.
Recognized her, sourced the photo to Reddit
Reddit contained many more photos, including many nudes. I am not that familiar with reddit but it was a Milf section
I talked to a female coworker on her thoughts if I should inform her, since the photos looked to posted without her knowledge.
I emailed from a burner account and she has responded about 10 times with comments like, "I am going to the FBI they will find you" "You anonymous people make me sick", "Not man enough to tell me who you are" etc...

My original email states I randomly came across them and wanted to tell her so she could get them removed if they were against her consent. I linked her what appeared to be the original post and linked the user and told her to track him down.

My original email was pretty clear that I didnt post them

Me informing her of who I am would only make the situation even more awkward.

She is pretty much on the offensive with me because I saw the photos.

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Your heart's in the right place but I think you went about it in the wrong way. No matter how you phrased it, the anon e-mail is going to come across as threatening.

IMO, how I'd handle it would depend on how close my relationship is to the person in the photos. If it is someone I'm close to and have known for a long time, I'd contact them directly. While that might be uncomfortable , I think it would be better to hear the news straight from a close friend. Along those same lines, if it is someone I know but don't consider a particularly close friend, I'd probably first seek out someone in our mutual circle (almost certainly another female) that's closer and ask them to help break the news. Don't show the photos, just 'this is what I found, I need help telling her'. Again, hearing it from people you know is far better than getting an anon e-mail.

There's another reason to avoid the anon approach. Most states have laws against revenge porn. If she goes to LE, that anon e-mail is going to immediately attract their interest. When the e-mail host gives up subscriber information based a subpoena, that interest could be directed your way.

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Most states have laws against revenge porn.

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I seriously hope and pray my ex is well aware of this. Should have included the return of all such photos in the divorce settlement. I was way too naive in believing the whole "forever and ever" BS along with trusting him without question.

I would love to believe that he'd destroyed them but I know that he hasn't. It's such a reassuring, comforting feeling knowing that someone of his ethical and moral standards is in possession of those items.

My fault, though. I should've known better, I guess. I can, however, definitely say emphatically that it will never happen again.

What a tease

J/K

OP is really a fan of r/milf, but just doesn't want to come clean about it.

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Contact her and let her know who you are and how you came across them. Explain you contacted her anonymously to try and save her from being embarrassed should you guys ever cross paths again. You're sorry this has happened to her.....Parlay that into a meeting for you to provide the details of the entire thing. Meet over drinks. Console, console, console,

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^^^^^This...


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