re: Who Here Has Had This Feeling?

Hey, I used to be where you are. Then I dated a bunch of crazy women, and now I am back where you are.

Everybody is alone on some level. Don't sweat it. I care about plenty of people, but I am not super attached to any of them.

Maybe we share the same sociopathology.

I think maybe you are just a little bit of an introvert. It took me many years to discover this about myself. I make friends easily, but I get worn out if I have to interact with lots of people all of the time. It just doesn't suit me. That's just the way I am.

I get what I consider to be a normal amount of "lonely" if I isolate myself, but I need time alone in order to feel sane.

Basically what this guy said, minus all my added bullshite in my last post

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dick on here

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Does your name start with a C by an chance?

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No.

@Kentucker

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What makes you think something's wrong with you? You seem to have your act together. You understand yourself at 20. That's so far ahead of me at that age - I'm just plain jealous.

The 6-year crush is a bit unusual but I wouldn't worry about it. You'll meet another girl, guaranteed.

Enjoy your life. You've got nothing personal to worry about.

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Thanks. I really shouldn't be worried. I've got a full ride, have good physical health, and have met many nice people. Maybe there isn't anything "wrong" with me. My life is relatively easy. I might just be "normal" and not know it.

@Slippery Slope

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I've never had a feeling.

See a doctor if you're sad.

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I had a therapist in 11th and 12th grade, and I've visited my school's counseling center a few times. Psychological therapy isn't a cure. It feels nice to talk, but it doesn't solve my perceived problems. Honestly, I may just be overcomplicating things.

I've got baseline unhappiness. I don't know what mental conflicts or personal struggles others are struggling; that's not business unless they make it mine. So many people seem to having a fun time and doing so many things together, and I'm out of the loop. I don't understand how my friends and family express their "care" toward me. I don't actively "fake it" like some people. I'm not going to put on a fake smile and say everything's great, but I also refuse to spill my guts out.

@FourThreeForty

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I've been there before man. I wasn't necessarily a loner a lot but I wasn't accepted by many people. After having all the fun with the ladies and the goofy bro times, I thought what I wanted at the moment was a chick to tell me how great I was or at least some dude to smack talk how much he's gonna kick my arse at a video game.

But I got to the point (I'm 20 as well), I just turned my give a frick switch. Me and my brother go out and have a great time at the movies, clubs, among other things. Women are nothing more than a distraction and a bank account destroyer in marriage these days with few exceptions.

I will never marry because I don't want kids and I have no desire to be stuck with someone who'll probably screw my life over in 10-20 years. So do what you must. Don't let life get you down. And frick all these people in this thread. Just typical rantards.

Hope everything goes well for you going forward.

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Some of the responses before yours were considerate, and I stated such. I appreciated those.

Yeah, I wish I could stop giving a crap about others (without causing others harm). I honestly wish I didn't know certain emotions. Life would be so much easier if you didn't desire other's interactions because you didn't give a crap. Thanks for the support.

@auzach91

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Hmmm idk. Sounds like you need to find an activity or something. Hiking, golf, softball. Meet some new people. The 6 yr crush thing is a little weird. Id say that's really hindering your thought process of meeting someone new. Forget about her, get some strange and move on dude. 6 years is close to crazy shite man. Especially if you've never dated.

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Yeah, my suitemate told me that she's not a good person and that I should move on. I just haven't met anyone where there was a mutual liking for one another.

I could definitely use a hobby. I suffer from chronic procrastination, sleep deprivation, and laziness. I've gotten out a little more the past month or two, but I've still got too much downtime and it's affected me academically.

If I had a job, somewhere to go regularly, or some people that I'd often want to spend time with, then I might be fine. I used to be into gaming and reading; not anymore. I spend much of my time online not accomplishing things that I should or would otherwise like to do.

Above all, maybe I need a break from the internet.
Who here has tried that?

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Hey, I used to be where you are. Then I dated a bunch of crazy women, and now I am back where you are.

Everybody is alone on some level. Don't sweat it. I care about plenty of people, but I am not super attached to any of them.

Maybe we share the same sociopathology.

I think maybe you are just a little bit of an introvert. It took me many years to discover this about myself. I make friends easily, but I get worn out if I have to interact with lots of people all of the time. It just doesn't suit me. That's just the way I am.

I get what I consider to be a normal amount of "lonely" if I isolate myself, but I need time alone in order to feel sane.

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If it weren't for your second sentence, I could say we do fall in the same boat. WOW! You pretty much summed up how I am. I'm bookmarking this for times when I need it. Thanks a bunch.

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I basically have a pretty close circle of people I hang out with along with the SO and family. I'm pretty introverted in that respect. There's a difference in keeping a close circle and being legitimately unhappy/lonely though. You should be able to garner happiness without outside influence (i.e. other people). If you're unable to do that, you may want to talk to someone about it.

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I don't have a close circle. I can't confide in family or friends; I don't trust any of them enough to do such. Laughter is temporary happiness, and I know how to entertain myself. However, I don't know how to garner happiness without outside influence. The happiness from laughter is fleeting and inadequate. I've talked to many people about my unhappiness, but I'm the only that can change it; I just don't know how. There is no one way because we're all different. How am I supposed to find something that keeps me happy?

i was having too much fun at 20 to think about dating seriously. had casual friends and liked my time alone. best of both worlds imo

Damn man your life must suck

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i was having too much fun at 20 to think about dating seriously. had casual friends and liked my time alone. best of both worlds imo

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Truth.