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re: Website for extramarital affairs has been hacked
Posted on 7/20/15 at 10:31 am to Agforlife
Posted on 7/20/15 at 10:31 am to Agforlife
I'm sure some of the culprits are those where their SO stopped showing affection/having sex. To me, those in a marriage that don't attempt to fullfill their partners desires (within reason) are just as guilty at breaking their vows as the cheater. Sex/affection is a biological need for most. But I'm also sure there are also serial cheaters that never gave their vow the first thought. There's also probably a subset of people on there that "window shop" and never cross the line, they just use it as an outlet to not cheat. Let's be honest, cheating is an ancient act, it's just more publicized now.
JMO of course.
JMO of course.
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Posted on 7/20/15 at 2:33 pm to AUbagman
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I'm sure some of the culprits are those where their SO stopped showing affection/having sex. To me, those in a marriage that don't attempt to fullfill their partners desires (within reason) are just as guilty at breaking their vows as the cheater. Sex/affection is a biological need for most.
"As guilty", no. The person cheating still bears ultimate responsibility. That said, it is playing with fire for a spouse to stop showing affection or having sex with their partner. You don't get married to be celibate and in many marriages that is what is essentially forced on one partner if they remain in the marriage giving them the choice of divorce (which has broad applications, especially if there are children involved), giving up sex, or cheating.
I have a very good friend who is on the edge of divorce right now who went through this. His wife just stopped having interest in sex and he went along for years. He's a wealthy and good looking guy. Finally a girl at work was after him long enough he was weak and cheated. He told his wife and she has made his life hell. He's taken responsibility and done everything she has asked but if he stays it will still be essentially in a sexless marriage where she makes him feel like crap for cheating while he waits for their kids to be old enough to go to college. While he was wrong to cheat, it's not like his wife is innocent. Don't marry someone and then if you become disinterested in sex expect that person to just deal with it. It's a very cruel thing to do to what may be a really nice person who is trying to do the right thing.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 5:13 pm to aggressor
She is getting the D somewhere.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 5:28 pm to aggressor
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have a very good friend
Sorry about the no sex.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 5:35 pm to AUbagman
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I'm sure some of the culprits are those where their SO stopped showing affection/having sex. To me, those in a marriage that don't attempt to fullfill their partners desires (within reason) are just as guilty at breaking their vows as the cheater.
Depends on what you consider within reason. And whether you actually attempted to address it like a mature adult before mailing it in.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 5:40 pm to AUbagman
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I'm sure some of the culprits are those where their SO stopped showing affection/having sex. To me, those in a marriage that don't attempt to fullfill their partners desires (within reason) are just as guilty at breaking their vows as the cheater. Sex/affection is a biological need for most.
I agree with this.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 5:56 pm to CNB
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by CNB
But gay marriage ruins the sanctity of marriage
They love this lie don't they! :)
Posted on 7/20/15 at 7:30 pm to AUCatfish
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There is one they play on Sirius/XM where the husband catches the wife on Ashley Madison, and after they talk, she recommends he gets on there too.
Yeah, that's realistic!
I agree that there are reasons people will cheat, and withholding of affection and sex is a big one. But lots of things can be solved with communication - and there is always a reason. Why did the affection dry up? Is there a physical reason? Does the partner who isn't interested anymore feeling disrespected or abused in the relationship? Cheating is the easy way out, if this is the problem. People have to communicate if they value the relationship. Bottom line, if you're to the point of cheating, just get out.
Posted on 7/20/15 at 7:39 pm to VagueMessage
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curious people who don't really go through with it physically.
I always wanted to lurk on that site to see which of my neighbors was a scum bag.
Posted on 8/18/15 at 7:23 pm to Henry Jones Jr
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