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re: So I served on jury duty last week
Posted on 3/21/16 at 7:48 pm to sumtimeitbeslikedat
Posted on 3/21/16 at 7:48 pm to sumtimeitbeslikedat
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I DEFINATELY wouldn't go by and see her un-announced. Think about it, if that was me I would have a gun REAL handy from now on- and myself or whomever is staying with me wouldn't hesitate a second to blow some stranger who popped by un-announced off my front porch before they even got a "hi" outta their mouth. Just write her a letter and ask if u can come by at a specific time and day if you feel compelled to talk to her face to face.
Yeah, I didn't think this through. I'm thankful for the calmer heads at secrant.com (never thought you'd see THAT phrase, did you?) talking me out of an unannounced visit. I've written her a letter. If she responds, great. If not... well, we put that bastard away and that will have to do.
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Posted on 3/21/16 at 9:22 pm to finestfirst79
Remember there are people in a dozen different professions who have to deal with that sort of shite every day. Talk with them all the time. From cops to doctors to social workers, they see a ton of shite and have to go home with it every night.
Posted on 3/21/16 at 9:48 pm to finestfirst79
Any contact between a victim and a juror subsequent to trial is absolutely irrelevant to a determination of guilt or innocence. Even if there was an ethical quandary, the error would most likely be deemed harmless.
I would find out if there is a victim's advocate where you are. If so, contact he or she and ask if it's possible to contact the victim and see if she would be amenable to a meeting of some sorts. If this isn't possible, I'd leave the victim be. You have good intentions, but rehashing a traumatic life event may only cause her more harm.
I would find out if there is a victim's advocate where you are. If so, contact he or she and ask if it's possible to contact the victim and see if she would be amenable to a meeting of some sorts. If this isn't possible, I'd leave the victim be. You have good intentions, but rehashing a traumatic life event may only cause her more harm.
Posted on 3/21/16 at 10:04 pm to finestfirst79
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I'm thankful for the calmer heads at secrant.com
So, Lucifer wanted to build a snowman today, huh?
Posted on 3/21/16 at 10:42 pm to finestfirst79
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I'm thankful for the calmer heads at secrant.com (never thought you'd see THAT phrase, did you?) talking me out of an unannounced visit.
Be glad you didn't post it over on the OT. Their advice would have been to PIIHB.
Posted on 3/21/16 at 11:10 pm to PrivatePublic
No, they would have been mature about the situation.
Posted on 3/22/16 at 3:14 pm to finestfirst79
Do it sir. It will be a blessing to you as well as being beneficial to her as well.
Posted on 3/22/16 at 4:27 pm to Bama Eric
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Do it sir. It will be a blessing to you as well as being beneficial to her as well.
Nah. Calmer heads here talked me out of it, and I think there's some wisdom in their points. I sent her a letter this morning offering taxi service, to sit down and talk, etc. If she responds, great.
I don't want to give anybody here a big head, but just writing this down and reading the responses has helped me quite a bit. And I sent an e-mail thanking the DA for going through this sort of thing on a continual basis yesterday. I received a reply this morning in which he echoed much of what has been said here. We put the son of a bitch away, and the victim and her family were visibly thankful for that. That'll do.
Posted on 3/22/16 at 9:42 pm to finestfirst79
The one time I got to serve on a jury was awful as well. We were sequestered to another county because it was a heated situation and that county didn't think they'd get an objective jury. Long story short, we convicted a young black man in the death of his girlfriend's 2 year old for felonious child abuse and manslaughter. He got 20 years. The man and girlfriend were serious drug users and left a 2 year old locked up in a room room long enough to starve to death. The mom got the death penalty in another trial.
Posted on 3/23/16 at 10:13 pm to finestfirst79
I wanted to share my jury duty story. A couple years ago, I was picked for a murder case. A few young adults were drinking and smoking weed and then wreclessly rode 4- wheelers. The driver of one was a Marine with a young girl on the back. He took a turn on a hilly, windy rode and her head smashed into the yellow arrow sign. For weeks after, I would feel panicky when I would see a yellow arrow directional sign, especially in bad weather. I felt horrible for both families. One lost a daughter and the other lost his career.
Posted on 3/23/16 at 11:31 pm to AULGM
Murder? That sounds like at worst "reckless endangerment" with or without weed.
I can sympathize with butt-clinching over yellow signs, though.
I can sympathize with butt-clinching over yellow signs, though.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 6:58 am to finestfirst79
The Marine ended up taking a plea deal, but a few of the jurors talked after and we wished it would have been decided by us because we felt like you. I felt horrible for both families.
Posted on 5/11/16 at 7:56 pm to finestfirst79
Followup. Sentencing was a few days ago, made the news today. 30 years for attempted murder, a consecutive 30 years for armed robbery. And here's the fun part: in Mississippi there is no possibility of parole for either of those charges. I should probably feel guilty about how relieved I am at this news. But I'm not! Booyah!
Posted on 5/11/16 at 8:47 pm to finestfirst79
Hopefully real justice awaits them in jail while they're sleeping.
Posted on 5/11/16 at 9:03 pm to finestfirst79
My old ball and chain is a lawyer. That woman is invaluable. I would never sit for a jury.
Posted on 5/11/16 at 9:45 pm to finestfirst79
Posted on 5/11/16 at 10:08 pm to finestfirst79
I'm glad the sentencing phase gave you some relief. That was an emotionally wrenching experience you went through. I'm sure you feel that you grew a lot because of it.
Posted on 5/12/16 at 8:07 am to Kentucker
I was jury foreman once and had a very opposite experience. It became clear pretty quick that the accused did not assault the "victims", that they in fact attacked him but he proceeded to beat their arse. I don't think it helped that he was from Mexico and didn't speak English and the "victims" were sneaky and set him up. They hid a camera, edited the video and brought it to the police after the crime scene investigation left. One of the victims actually stabbed the defendant but said he did it because the accused was beating his wife. She didn't have a mark on her. Honestly, I couldn't believe the DA pressed charges against the guy when they should have pressed charges against the victims. When the judge read our Not Guilty verdict the poor guy broke down into tears. Afterward the judge walked into the room we were waiting in and told us he hoped we had all learned a lesson about why you don't always believe the reports the police and DA provide the media with.
Posted on 5/12/16 at 9:27 am to finestfirst79
Thank you for doing your part in getting an evil person to a place they cannot hurt more innocent people.
You should definitely see a counselor. Talk to the DA and see if they have options. I would get the advice on the DAs office and a professional therapist in regards to going to visit her. You should definitely open up with a phone call and not just show up. That would be an invasion of privacy IMO, regardless of your good intentions.
When you feel down about what happened, just remember that you helped bring that criminal to justice. There are some messed up people in our society, but thanks to you and the other jurors there is one less roaming the streets freely. Thank God that woman is still alive.
You should definitely see a counselor. Talk to the DA and see if they have options. I would get the advice on the DAs office and a professional therapist in regards to going to visit her. You should definitely open up with a phone call and not just show up. That would be an invasion of privacy IMO, regardless of your good intentions.
When you feel down about what happened, just remember that you helped bring that criminal to justice. There are some messed up people in our society, but thanks to you and the other jurors there is one less roaming the streets freely. Thank God that woman is still alive.
Posted on 5/12/16 at 11:30 am to finestfirst79
PTSD. Is a very grave illness for you and your family, no one can understand unless they have experience a criminal act or combat. I keep my sanity with therapy from my combat experience,
Please get professional help or your life will be ruined. You will never forget that picture but it will be less traumatic, as the years go by.
Good luck.
Please get professional help or your life will be ruined. You will never forget that picture but it will be less traumatic, as the years go by.
Good luck.
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