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Ever had to watch someone die?
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:10 am
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:10 am
My dad is 81, had a couple of strokes 2 weeks ago. We thought he was recovering well in rehab but suddenly deteriorated. Been in ICU since Sunday. All of his organs are shutting down. Been on morphine since Tuesday night, hasn't been conscious since Friday. Moved to a private room a couple hours ago and now just waiting for him to pass. He's only hooked up to the morphine drip now, no BP cuff, no heart monitor. Nurse will check him every 2 hours.
I've never been present when someone died before.
I've never been present when someone died before.
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Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:20 am to Merck
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Merck
I'm really sorry to hear about your dad Merck. My grandfather got cancer a few years ago and deteriorated pretty quick. I stayed up all night taking care of him when he got close to the end. I went home to sleep and they called me at 4:00 that next morning to tell me that he had passed.
He died on Thanksgiving day. His birthday was in december. He would have turned 80 years old.
Prayers sent.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:21 am to Merck
Man, I hope I can live to the age of 81. Seems like your old man has had a long, full life. It's good you're there with him. Even if he isn't conscious to this reality, he will always be "there." It's now your turn to carry your family's torch, and I'm sure your pops is very proud of you for doing so.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:36 am to Merck
I was in your exact spot 1 year and 3 days ago from today with my grandpa.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:37 am to Jon Ham
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Seems like your old man has had a long, full life.
He has. This past week, especially the last two nights, has been spent swapping stories. We never made a trip anywhere that we didn't run into somebody he knew. Me, him and my mom drove to California when I was 16 to visit my older brother stationed at the naval base in San Diego. At a rest stop in the middle of the desert ran into a guy he knew and spent 20 minutes talking to him.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:40 am to Merck
My aunt died from kidney failure, was staying with grandmother (her mom) and hospice nurse and I stopped by every other day. Was hard to watch...
My other aunt was in a hospice facility and died 10 minutes after my family left, we got call and turned around I was like 11 then....
A few other times as well but those had most impact
My other aunt was in a hospice facility and died 10 minutes after my family left, we got call and turned around I was like 11 then....
A few other times as well but those had most impact
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:42 am to GCTiger11
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GCTiger11
Sorry about your grandpa. Hope he went peacefully.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:45 am to UKWildcatsFAN
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UKWildcatsFAN
That's a bad way to remember Thanksgiving, sorry to hear it.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 3:55 am to Merck
Similar thing happened to my Grandmother last year. She had a massive stroke and was paralyzed down the entire left side of her body (face to her toes). She couldn't talk, eat (feeding tube), or do anything. She lived like this for several months before she finally passed.
The stroke and immediate days after were terrible. But when she finally passed it was almost a sigh of relief. No more pain, no more agony, and no more suffering. She was 88 and lived a great life, better than 99% of the people on this earth. This knowledge, along with having some private talks with her alone before she deteriorated is what helped make this process much "easier" (terrible wording) for me.
She knew she was loved, she knew she had lived a great life, and she knew that she successfully raised some great children/grandchildren into this world.
The stroke and immediate days after were terrible. But when she finally passed it was almost a sigh of relief. No more pain, no more agony, and no more suffering. She was 88 and lived a great life, better than 99% of the people on this earth. This knowledge, along with having some private talks with her alone before she deteriorated is what helped make this process much "easier" (terrible wording) for me.
She knew she was loved, she knew she had lived a great life, and she knew that she successfully raised some great children/grandchildren into this world.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 4:09 am to Merck
I was in the same house when my grandma passed. Basically the same scenario as you. Had a stroke, just couldn't hold on anymore.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 5:21 am to Merck
Very Sorry to hear that. Breaks my heart that anyone has to go through it. 3 years ago this upcoming March, My Mom started having pains in her lower abdomen. Doctors put a stent in her lower intestine and for two days she seemed fine and they sent her home. Then the pain returned. She went to the e.r. and was told she had to have surgery to repair the stent. She wasn't breathing on her own after surgery and they had to medically induce a coma. She never came out. It's never easy to go through, and I wish you and your family the best.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 7:10 am to Merck
Sorry for what you are going through. I watched my aunt go after spending a week at the hospital with her. She had cancer and was in a ton of pain so I took solace in the fact knowing she wasn't in pain anymore.
Don't know if you believe in God or not but if you do a prayer for God to accept him into his arms will bring comfort.
Don't know if you believe in God or not but if you do a prayer for God to accept him into his arms will bring comfort.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 7:12 am to Merck
Watched my first born son take his last breathes=rough
Posted on 1/27/13 at 7:25 am to Merck
Yes, I watched my grandfather die. I stood there as his heart monitor went from 78 bpm to 0, then saw my grandmother collapse onto the floor. They'd been married 55 years.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 8:41 am to Merck
Unfortunately I'm watching my MIL die now.
Watched my paternal GFather die in the hospital as a teenager.
Went home to take a shower after all night at tthe hospital and mom died before I even got home.
Spent all Father's day at my FIL. Took the kids home for bath sleep and school the next day and he passed while I was putting them in bed.
Took my aunt to the Dr and she died the next day of heart failure.
Father died of heart attack when I was in Tuscaloosa. That three hour drive home sucked worse than being there for the others.
Watched my paternal GFather die in the hospital as a teenager.
Went home to take a shower after all night at tthe hospital and mom died before I even got home.
Spent all Father's day at my FIL. Took the kids home for bath sleep and school the next day and he passed while I was putting them in bed.
Took my aunt to the Dr and she died the next day of heart failure.
Father died of heart attack when I was in Tuscaloosa. That three hour drive home sucked worse than being there for the others.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 8:52 am to Merck
Sorry to hear about everyone's losses. Had to watch my best friend waste away from cancer five years ago. I know this is just a forum but if anyone ever needs any advice dealing with stuff like that don't every feel worried about asking me. I'll try my best to help out. I went to a counselor for that stuff and have no problem helping folks out.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 8:55 am to Merck
I have not had to witness the death of a relative, fortunately. The only death I have seen was the result of a lightning strike in Gulf Shores about 8 years ago - a man and his toddler daughter were instantly killed while the father was trying to recover a beach umbrella during an oncoming storm.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 9:07 am to HempHead
Close to it, I saw a drunk guy fall backwards out of the second story balcony when he was leaning out looking up. He is lucky to be alive, smashed the back of his head on solid concrete. Blood was everywhere 
Posted on 1/27/13 at 9:30 am to Merck
Sorry about your dad. I watched a guy die on Bourbon St. I think he had overdosed or something, but he was laying on the street with the paramedics on him. They were doing CPR and tried using a defibrillator. Nope, didn't work. They put him on the stretcher and walked back to the ambulance.
It was messed up.
It was messed up.
Posted on 1/27/13 at 10:01 am to Merck
Sorry about your dad Merck. Just prayed for him, hope he doesn't suffer anymore.
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