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What to do: college roommate is gay
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:28 pm
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:28 pm
So, my kid just found out that his college roommate is gay - he came out of the closet on social media and has stated he hates sports.
My son has never met him, just through social media and they don't move in for a week or so. My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Any suggestions? This is his first year of college and it is several states away.
My son has never met him, just through social media and they don't move in for a week or so. My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Any suggestions? This is his first year of college and it is several states away.
This post was edited on 8/5/14 at 11:30 pm
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Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:30 pm to Bham4Tide
Tell him to lube up
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:32 pm to Bham4Tide
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:34 pm to Bham4Tide
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...it is several states away.
Louisiana?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:35 pm to Bham4Tide
Well, that gay dude will probably get to know more hot chicks than your son could imagine. So that's a plus.
I've never gone wrong with having a gay friend or two, as far as that goes.
That being said, if he's not comfortable, it's understandable. If that dude is a drama queen, he's not gonna like it at all. If he's just a regular arse gay dude, it won't be so bad.
Honestly, you're the one paying for his school, and it's his first year, if he seems discombobulated, find him a new roommate. You gotta do what's best for your kid, if it's a distraction, and is really going to upset HIS apple cart, not yours, his. Then move him somewhere else.
If he's cool with it, let him live his life. That's what college is about.
I've never gone wrong with having a gay friend or two, as far as that goes.
That being said, if he's not comfortable, it's understandable. If that dude is a drama queen, he's not gonna like it at all. If he's just a regular arse gay dude, it won't be so bad.
Honestly, you're the one paying for his school, and it's his first year, if he seems discombobulated, find him a new roommate. You gotta do what's best for your kid, if it's a distraction, and is really going to upset HIS apple cart, not yours, his. Then move him somewhere else.
If he's cool with it, let him live his life. That's what college is about.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:38 pm to Bham4Tide
Get over it.... That's all you can do. A lot of gay guys know to get over straight men. Why not vice versa?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:52 pm to Bham4Tide
Had a college room mate that was very much culturally different than me. His habits that were stereotypical of his heritage were very distracting. He was also not very friendly at all the first 3 days I was there. My parents paid extra and got me my own room. I was very thankful, would have been a long very uncomfortable semester.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:55 pm to Bham4Tide
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my kid just found out that his college roommate is gay
Your son is an Aggie?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:59 pm to Bham4Tide
Ask the school to change roommates.... Say it makes you so uncomfortable that you're thinking about suicide. That should work. and if it doesn't, then you go to one shitty school.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:36 am to Bham4Tide
Your son will meet people from all walks of life as he ages. I think it's best that he not over react and ask for another roommate right now. He doesn't want to be labeled a homophobe.
Ask him to try tolerating the situation for a while. If the two of them do have a genuine personality conflict then, by all means, he should find a new roommate. I think the school understands that this can happen and I'm sure they'll do right by your son.
Ask him to try tolerating the situation for a while. If the two of them do have a genuine personality conflict then, by all means, he should find a new roommate. I think the school understands that this can happen and I'm sure they'll do right by your son.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:43 am to Bham4Tide
Buy your son a condo
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:50 am to Bham4Tide
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My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Don't most schools do roommate matching these days? My son completed a profile so he could be matched with people who shared similar interests, hobbies, activities, etc.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:57 am to Bham4Tide
Maybe the roommates friends were just playing a joke on social media, as weird as that may sound.
A guy at UGA told me how he thought his roommate was gay but in reality the dude's friends hacked his facebook and changed his orientation
A guy at UGA told me how he thought his roommate was gay but in reality the dude's friends hacked his facebook and changed his orientation
Posted on 8/6/14 at 1:06 am to Bham4Tide
I had a gay roommate at one point and honestly, they don't wanna frick any guy they meet. It's good to meet other people with different viewpoints than your own.
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Posted on 8/6/14 at 1:58 am to Bham4Tide
Tell them you must have another dorm room. They are sharing a SMALL,space he must be able to deal with the person he lives with. Or pony up and get him an apartment. If he is on a sports team it won't matter about living in the dorm and meeting people
Posted on 8/6/14 at 2:09 am to Bham4Tide
Yo could always try and get your son into a different place in the same complex. I've gone through that. PITA but I was happier in the end.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 6:24 am to Bham4Tide
Tell him the guy isn't going to try and rape him.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 6:39 am to Bham4Tide
1. Are you sure the guy isn't just messing with your son. Or someone isn't messing with him? Since you said the school is in the Midwest, I could see someone playing a joke on the "Alabama kid" to see if he'll freak out at this.
2. If it is true and your son is uncomfortable with it, and you can afford it, let him move into a place by himself and tell his roommate that he wants to live alone to be sure he can focus on studies when he's not with the team.
Freshman year is a delicate time. No reason for him to be uncomfortable and get off to a rough start just because people think he should "get over it" and room with a guy that he has no commonalities with. He's uncomfortable? Then move. Why is it anyone else's concern why he was uncomfortable?
2. If it is true and your son is uncomfortable with it, and you can afford it, let him move into a place by himself and tell his roommate that he wants to live alone to be sure he can focus on studies when he's not with the team.
Freshman year is a delicate time. No reason for him to be uncomfortable and get off to a rough start just because people think he should "get over it" and room with a guy that he has no commonalities with. He's uncomfortable? Then move. Why is it anyone else's concern why he was uncomfortable?
This post was edited on 8/6/14 at 6:40 am
Posted on 8/6/14 at 7:37 am to Bham4Tide
I think your son and his roommate are gonna have a fabulous time together... Late night study crams complete with Ben and Jerry's, Sunday Sex and the City binges , vent sessions complete with a magnum of cheap red wine, the list goes on and on.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 8:51 am to Bham4Tide
One of my best friends had a gay roommate his freshman year. Said he was a great wingman to have around. I can understand him being pissed, but he could turn lemons into lemonade and get laid more.
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