re: All this turmoil proves one thing

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the comment about controlling your environment is sage advice..

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Ta-Nehisi Coates won’t be liked here, but he put it better than anyone else I’ve ever heard:

“I've been with my spouse for almost 15 years. In those years, I've never been with anyone but the mother of my son. But that's not because I’m an especially good and true person. In fact, I am wholly in possession of an unimaginably filthy and mongrel mind. But I am also a dude who believes in guard-rails, as a buddy of mine once put it. I don't believe in getting "in the moment" and then exercising will-power. I believe in avoiding "the moment.” I believe in being absolutely clear with myself about why I am having a second drink, and why I am not; why I am going to a party, and why I am not. I believe that the battle is lost at Happy Hour, not at the hotel.”

What it comes down to is, as a man, if you put yourself in this sort of position, you will fail. So don’t put yourself there in the first place.