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re: When the father has custody of the kids
Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:18 pm to semotruman
Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:18 pm to semotruman
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The real losers were the kids. Oh, and he had tattooed his wedding ring due to a metal allergy, so that was a pain to get removed too.
Damn, I thought my divorce was tough
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Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:30 pm to MIZ_COU
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Congrats
Thank you sir, and I regret my earlier besmirching of Missouri. Maybe. Gotta think about that one.
I also no longer hold any particular malice towards a conniving lazy-arse Oprah-watching nonsexual waste of human flesh, if anybody knows anybody like that. But it damn sure was good to have my kids here. I'd be a LOT grumpier today if they hadn't flipped that switch.
Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:39 pm to Vols&Shaft83
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Damn, I thought my divorce was tough
My brother
First meeting with her attorney:
Dumbass attorney: We think they need and you can afford X dollars/month.
Me: That's over twice what I make before taxes.
Dumbass attorney: Yes, but you're a young man. I figure you can get a second job.
Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:40 pm to semotruman
I'm shocked that anyone would ever regret getting a hand tattoo.
Posted on 5/14/14 at 9:45 pm to PowerTool
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I'm shocked that anyone would ever regret getting a hand tattoo.
So let's see yours! C'mon. Don't be a weenie.
Posted on 5/14/14 at 11:14 pm to semotruman
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I'm friends with a guy who got primary custody of his kids. It's shared, but he's primary. The ex-wife wanted to move out of Missouri with the kids, the dad wanted then to stay with him in the same school. Mom was arrogant about it, quit her job, told him to get insurance for the kids, and planned her move - before the hearing. The judge got pissed off and decided it was in the kids best interest to stay in the same school instead of moving to another state with mom and her new boyfriend. Who she was cheating with. So, while she wasn't necessarily a bad mom, she was kind if a pos. And lost her kids.
Change Missouri with Georgia, and that's my exact story.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 12:03 am to finestfirst79
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First meeting with her attorney: Dumbass attorney: We think they need and you can afford X dollars/month. Me: That's over twice what I make before taxes. Dumbass attorney: Yes, but you're a young man. I figure you can get a second job.
My FiL had a friend who went through that and she requested and was granted an increase in alimony to 1k over his monthly salary and he quit his job just to spite her. The judge asked him why and he said he'd be better off in jail at this point for not paying. Judge wouldn't send him though.
I need to follow up and see what's come of him.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 12:20 am to 3nOut
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My FiL had a friend who went through that and...
The kicker for me: After 6 months of paying attorneys on both sides (and I paid for both, because that's how MS rolls) I ended up being "forced" to pay her less than I'd been paying freely since our separation. I tried to tell the dumbass that this was a bad deal, but she liked it because I was legally compelled to pay, so in some really weird way she won. OK, then. You win.
Divorce just sucks all the way around, except for one part. Heh.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 4:28 am to finestfirst79
My ex got custody of our three girls after she left n didnt see them or call them for three months, filed for divorce and judge awarded them to her like nothing happened. She moved to Illinois with em 
Posted on 5/15/14 at 5:46 am to finestfirst79
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she's an Auburn fan, that would explain it.
And on FB.
This post was edited on 5/15/14 at 5:52 am
Posted on 5/15/14 at 6:05 am to finestfirst79
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:54 am to 3nOut
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My FiL had a friend who went through that and she requested and was granted an increase in alimony to 1k over his monthly salary and he quit his job just to spite her.
My FiL is going through something similar right now. My MiL is a *real* piece of work (so much so that her parents are on *his* side), and is trying to take him for every dime he has, plus whatever he had before he ever even met her. Her attorney gave him a number of X, which was about 1500 more than he even made in a month.
Oh, and to top it all off, she was the one running around.
Divorce is an ugly, ugly business.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 11:29 am to finestfirst79
quote:that should be lost of custody for subjecting a kid to kansas. what a fricked up bitch
mine moved to fricking Kansas.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 11:44 am to RoyalAir
I know a guy that agreed to the alimony requested by her attorney(he didn't hire one) because he was still in love with her, even though she had cheated on him multiple times and left him for a guy she met online 20 years younger than her. At least they didn't have kids.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 2:29 pm to diddydirtyAubie
Sounds like the non-custodial parent being a bitch. Happens all the time whether dad has custody or mom has custody.
As to custody... it has nothing to do with crazy and everything to do with the general standard courts use: "best interests" of the child. The courts determine who provides the best home with more emphasis on a nurturing environment and so a father who provides a stable nurturing home versus a mother who provides a less stable/nurturing home the father will win every time (same thing goes in reverse - say Dad's work priorities are too high/away from home a lot/long hours etc. but mom's got more time for the kids).
That said, when a child reaches a certain age (it varies by jurisdiction but it's usually between 10-14), the court will honor the child's wishes in a custody dispute unless a parent is deemed unfit.
Custody disputes are NOT about the parents. The court is ruling in the interests of the child and who will best serve their needs.
As to custody... it has nothing to do with crazy and everything to do with the general standard courts use: "best interests" of the child. The courts determine who provides the best home with more emphasis on a nurturing environment and so a father who provides a stable nurturing home versus a mother who provides a less stable/nurturing home the father will win every time (same thing goes in reverse - say Dad's work priorities are too high/away from home a lot/long hours etc. but mom's got more time for the kids).
That said, when a child reaches a certain age (it varies by jurisdiction but it's usually between 10-14), the court will honor the child's wishes in a custody dispute unless a parent is deemed unfit.
Custody disputes are NOT about the parents. The court is ruling in the interests of the child and who will best serve their needs.
This post was edited on 5/15/14 at 2:30 pm
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