re: My advice for the married men of the SEC Rant

I am sorry to hear that, man. I don't even want to fathom my life without my wife. If genes have anything say in it, though, she will probably go first.

LC.

I know this is hard but you had an almost 50 year run. I am currently in year 25 with mine and she is great.

I never take her for granted but thanks for the reminder of how important she is to me.

Remember grief is just a reflection of how much you cared. That is a great thing to know for certain

Man LC sorry for your loss

Sir I am sorry for your loss. My wife and I celebrated 35 years of marriage today, so I have had this subject on my mind recently. My brother in law passed of leukemia one year ago next week and my sister in law has had to deal with it. Shes been remarkable, but I know she suffers.

Prayers to you and I hope you are surrounded by family and friends who support you.

I wanted to thank all of you for the awesome and kind remarks and thoughts. As I read through some of the posts I had a smile on my face as some really hit home on things I have had to deal with since her passing. I was not "so bad" laughing that I was completely dependent upon her, but not very far from that point. In 45 years together I would joke that there was one thing that was branded into my brain - I have no taste....laughing

So, in 45 years together, I went shopping for clothes with her, never alone maybe 5 times. Even today I walk into a mall and break into a rash and a sweat...lol. Since she knew my shirt size, pants size, shoe size and even suit size she would come home with these clothes that always matched perfectly. Another thing I never did in 45 years....and now I laugh at myself because I KNOW there are some of you thinking WTF is wrong with this old fart. I NEVER packed a suitcase and I am on the road 45-46 weeks a year. She would pack my suitcase and place shirt, pants, tie, socks all together because remember I had NO taste....lol. So, youtube is an awesome thing as I can now pack a suitcase and everything comes out with minimal wrinkles. Other thing, white button down shirt matches everything

While I was being facetious with my original post as it is virtually impossible to select if you can pass away before your spouse. My main point was to make sure you appreciate all the little things and also those things you are unsure of, make sure of them. Like my two examples above with regards to clothing, know where other things are kept and how to handle situations in your daily life.

The thought that a spouse could pass away never creeps into your mind, especially when there is no illness or reason to believe a demise is pending. The best way to describe it is allow someone to just pound your stomach with a bat as it just leaves this empty feeling.

Advice everyone gives is day to day. In the first couple of weeks I could not understand why everyone told me this. Now as I approach the second month it is more clear. The day to day approach buys you time. I wake every morning thinking she is off with friends, she is off fishing, she is off taking care of the homeless, all things she did on a regular basis. It is when I allow myself to think long term is when the sadness kicks in and the worries begin. What will I buy the grandkids for Christmas, will I put up a tree, how do I handle parking the RV at away games without her giving me directions. In two months I have learned it is important to focus on now until your mind is in a place where you can think about the future

Again, thank all of you so much for your posts and allowing me to share these thoughts. Special thanks to my close buds who I have never met in person, but whose emails have helped me greatly, Tuscaloosa and Old Sarge. It is surprising who you pick up as buds in these forums....laughing....again thanks to all of you

I'm sorry for,your loss.
Same applies for children,too.

I hope you have plenty of family
And close friends to hang with these days.