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Posted on 12/3/13 at 6:29 pm to GCTiger11
Lost my Dad June 2012 from a stroke (he was going fishing with my Step-Mom).
I choose to remember the great times we had and not continue to hold on to the grief. He had a great 77 years on this Earth and went being able to say goodbye to all of us.
RIP Dad...you are missed
It will get easier
I choose to remember the great times we had and not continue to hold on to the grief. He had a great 77 years on this Earth and went being able to say goodbye to all of us.
RIP Dad...you are missed
It will get easier
Posted on 12/3/13 at 9:21 pm to Wild Thang
Sorry to hear this man. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Posted on 12/3/13 at 11:18 pm to GCTiger11
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GCTiger11
So sorry. I'll say a prayer for you.
You'll find that after the initial shock, in the first few days, you're kind of numb. But it will be hard, and you need to let people be there for you. Grief is a funny thing. It hits you at the strangest times, and it can hit you hard. Be sure to let yourself go through it - if you don't, you'll only prolong it, and it cannot be avoided.
Keep your dad alive by remembering the funny quirks, and the stories, and all the things that made him special. And talk about these things, that helps you keep him close. Be kind to yourself, especially when the grief rears up down the road - and it will. I lost my dad a year and a half ago, and there are still days I want to talk to him so bad I just have a little cry. That's normal.
Hang in there. It is painful, but 's a part of life we all have to go through. Keep him close in your heart. And when you find yourself really wanting to talk to him? Chances are, you know what he would say on most topics if he was there. His advice will stay with you forever, so you never really lose him.
I know that rambled, and I'm sorry. Prayers to you and your family.
Posted on 12/3/13 at 11:33 pm to GCTiger11
Dude, thats awful. Im very sorry for your loss. I still have both mine and am grateful for it. One day though...
Posted on 12/3/13 at 11:59 pm to GCTiger11
Man I'm really sorry GC. I still have my parents but I've lost someone that was as close to me as I've ever had. Still think about her. All I know besides that it hurts is that a piece is missing and I became a slightly different person than I was before. Life goes on but in a different way. Again, so sorry.
Posted on 12/4/13 at 3:42 am to GCTiger11
Praying for you and your family man.
Posted on 12/4/13 at 6:39 am to GCTiger11
So sorry to hear of your loss.
Posted on 12/5/13 at 9:01 pm to sowega dawg
Thanks for all the insight and well wishes, guys. Crazy how the best week of my life (turned 21 last Monday) can turn into the worst in a second.
We're laying my pops to rest in the morning. To say I'm not looking forward to it would be an understatement.
We're laying my pops to rest in the morning. To say I'm not looking forward to it would be an understatement.
Posted on 12/5/13 at 11:34 pm to GCTiger11
be a man and be there for your family in this time of need. Sorry to hear about the loss man but all that can happen now is wait. you will never get over it but will one day accept it. long road ahead but keep your head up, someone is looking up to you.
Posted on 12/6/13 at 12:10 am to GCTiger11
I'm truly sorry for your loss.
Posted on 12/6/13 at 12:52 am to GCTiger11
My experience is different from most since my dad died when I was still an infant. My wounds have never healed even though I never really knew him well enough to mourn. As such, there's a bit of constant mourning because I have no memories or knowledge. There's just a hole there that can't be replaced no matter how much I love my step-relatives although each new story about him helps me immensely.
More recent experiences involved the SOs dad last year right before Christmas. It was unexpected as the doctors had told us that with treatment he had a great survival rate. He was more a father to me than a realized, taking care not to distinguish me from his own child -- not financially and not affection wise. I wasn't prepared for how bad it would hurt and how it hurts to this day to see his old car and expect him to be there. I suspect that like with other relatives this too will heal but in many ways I feel I was robbed again and before I fully understood what I had.
My advice is that time really does heal things. I know eventually the pain will pass as it has with others and that the memories will eventually uplift rather than be so damn painful. It may not heal completely as at times (like now) I've missed every single loved one but eventually it becomes bittersweet and then starts to bring a smile to your face when you think of what they might do. Pain becomes joy as strange as it sounds.
May peace descend on your family, healing your heart and filling you with happy memories sooner rather than later.
More recent experiences involved the SOs dad last year right before Christmas. It was unexpected as the doctors had told us that with treatment he had a great survival rate. He was more a father to me than a realized, taking care not to distinguish me from his own child -- not financially and not affection wise. I wasn't prepared for how bad it would hurt and how it hurts to this day to see his old car and expect him to be there. I suspect that like with other relatives this too will heal but in many ways I feel I was robbed again and before I fully understood what I had.
My advice is that time really does heal things. I know eventually the pain will pass as it has with others and that the memories will eventually uplift rather than be so damn painful. It may not heal completely as at times (like now) I've missed every single loved one but eventually it becomes bittersweet and then starts to bring a smile to your face when you think of what they might do. Pain becomes joy as strange as it sounds.
May peace descend on your family, healing your heart and filling you with happy memories sooner rather than later.
This post was edited on 12/6/13 at 1:03 am
Posted on 12/6/13 at 9:44 am to GCTiger11
Sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad in 94' when I was 20yrs. old and my twin brother 4 yrs. ago. There's nothing that makes it better but thinking about the good times helps.
Time "will" ease the pain though. Someone told me something one time and it's the way that I look at it now.
"We are here but this isn't our home. Now they're home." which is where we all hope to go one day.
Think about the years that you did get to spend with him and be thankful that you actually had the chance to "know" and be in that persons life.
There will always be a part of your dad with you as some of who your are is due to your parents molding and raising you the way that they wanted to.
I lost my dad in 94' when I was 20yrs. old and my twin brother 4 yrs. ago. There's nothing that makes it better but thinking about the good times helps.
Time "will" ease the pain though. Someone told me something one time and it's the way that I look at it now.
"We are here but this isn't our home. Now they're home." which is where we all hope to go one day.
Think about the years that you did get to spend with him and be thankful that you actually had the chance to "know" and be in that persons life.
There will always be a part of your dad with you as some of who your are is due to your parents molding and raising you the way that they wanted to.
This post was edited on 12/6/13 at 9:45 am
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