I don't Understand the Urban Meyer Thing

So a guy got drunk at a bar, and some sleazy girl started grinding on him, and someone whipped out a smart phone and saw him do something a little sexual with his hand.

What's the big deal?
Is he not allowed to have sex? Is he not allowed to pick up girls at a bar? Did he break the law?

Is a man who gets a little touchy feely with a girl who's grinding on him "a bad look"?

I feel like I'm missing something as this is something that most NFL players probably do every weekend.