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Got to have a job to get a car according to my father.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 2:12 pm
Posted on 6/10/16 at 2:12 pm
But I have no way of getting to said job without a car. I'm confused on how to move forward. Any suggestions on this? I know he has the money to buy one and I get he wants me to build character or whatever, but I'm great in school, have a lot of extracurricular and am about to save a butt load in scholarship money so why is he being so stubborn on this? I'm not entitled to a vehicle, I know that, but I leave school everyday seeing every idiot under the sun with one and I just feel like they haven't done anything to earn it and shouldn't my effort in school equate to having a job when money isn't the problem? I bust my arse in class and in almost every extracurricular/club my school has and play 3 sports. Haven't I proven I'm a hard worker? The job would take time away from what I'm trying to accomplish in High School.
P.S. Don't give me crap, this is a stupid problem, I know, I'm just looking for any of the dads on here for a solution. Also I'm about to turn 17, and almost all of my classmates have vehicles. I'm getting left behind in almost every out of school social circle because my parents won't drive me anywhere, so even though I put all the effort into academics, I don't get to enjoy the outside part of high school. I live 40 minutes away from my school because I'm on transfer so it's not like I can realistically expect someone to waste gas money to come get me.
P.S. Don't give me crap, this is a stupid problem, I know, I'm just looking for any of the dads on here for a solution. Also I'm about to turn 17, and almost all of my classmates have vehicles. I'm getting left behind in almost every out of school social circle because my parents won't drive me anywhere, so even though I put all the effort into academics, I don't get to enjoy the outside part of high school. I live 40 minutes away from my school because I'm on transfer so it's not like I can realistically expect someone to waste gas money to come get me.
This post was edited on 6/10/16 at 2:14 pm
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Posted on 6/10/16 at 2:27 pm to _Hurricane_
Walk or ride the bus. Hell, most jobs have online applications. It's not like you have to go to each place like I did. Get your life together.
Why won't your friends pick you up? Are you a shitty friend?
Why won't your friends pick you up? Are you a shitty friend?
This post was edited on 6/10/16 at 2:30 pm
Posted on 6/10/16 at 2:27 pm to _Hurricane_
Sounds like your father is tough, and that you'll benefit from his toughness down the road.
Is he willing to transport you to and from work until you save enough for a car?
Is he willing to transport you to and from work until you save enough for a car?
Posted on 6/10/16 at 2:47 pm to _Hurricane_
I didn't get a car until I was 18 and bought it with my own money.
I have 2 kids now, and I'll buy them a car once they get a job. I'm sure if your dad is insistent on you getting a job before a car, he'll be glad to drive you around to fill out applications. You'll be better off for it in the long run.
I have 2 kids now, and I'll buy them a car once they get a job. I'm sure if your dad is insistent on you getting a job before a car, he'll be glad to drive you around to fill out applications. You'll be better off for it in the long run.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 3:01 pm to _Hurricane_
As someone who has a lot of experience manipulating people with unrealistic expectations to lower those expectations, let me try to help you:
I would try to get one of those despicable online jobs, like those people who are basically at-home bill collectors or some other telemarketing scheme or maybe uploading Youtube videos of you playing video games. Some sort of job you couldn't even explain to your great grandad if you tried and even if you did he would be pissed his ancestor was doing it.
You dad sounds like a decent upsetting person, so he will ask you why the frick you are doing that sort of job.
That is when you lay on him "well if I had a car I could drive to a job you will actually respect. This is the best I can do without a car. Just doing what you told me to do dad the best I can."
At that moment your dad will learn the error of his forced Catch 22 and buy you the car on the condition that you get a job in retail or something where he won't be embarrassed to tell his friends what you do.
You need to keep to that promise, but via this manipulative plan you will get a car without having to walk or bus to a decent job like he probably is intending you to do.
Thank me later.
I would try to get one of those despicable online jobs, like those people who are basically at-home bill collectors or some other telemarketing scheme or maybe uploading Youtube videos of you playing video games. Some sort of job you couldn't even explain to your great grandad if you tried and even if you did he would be pissed his ancestor was doing it.
You dad sounds like a decent upsetting person, so he will ask you why the frick you are doing that sort of job.
That is when you lay on him "well if I had a car I could drive to a job you will actually respect. This is the best I can do without a car. Just doing what you told me to do dad the best I can."
At that moment your dad will learn the error of his forced Catch 22 and buy you the car on the condition that you get a job in retail or something where he won't be embarrassed to tell his friends what you do.
You need to keep to that promise, but via this manipulative plan you will get a car without having to walk or bus to a decent job like he probably is intending you to do.
Thank me later.
This post was edited on 6/10/16 at 3:20 pm
Posted on 6/10/16 at 3:11 pm to _Hurricane_
boy i walked almost 2 hours both ways to raise up the money i needed to buy a fricking bicycle. then i biked an hour a day for a year just to get the money up for a scooter. I then scootered 30 minutes a day to save up for my first car, a 1976 ford pinto. i drove that pinto 15 minutes a day until i saved up enough to buy a personal helicopter which i now park on top of one of the buildings i own. I fly it for about 2 hours a day.
I didn't do any of that.
I didn't do any of that.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 3:15 pm to _Hurricane_
I shared a truck with my Mom until I went off to college and they bought me a car. I rode to school with friends. I started working at 14 (skating rink up the road) and road the bus unless I got a ride. I also was a good student and athlete.
Basically, it is what it is.
Basically, it is what it is.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 3:18 pm to _Hurricane_
It sounds like you should put your dad in a shitty nursing home when the time comes.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 3:29 pm to _Hurricane_
Bought my own truck at 17. Have 3 grown sons now, and I didn't buy them a vehicle either. They got a job, saved up, and bought their own trucks.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:10 pm to _Hurricane_
I'm with your dad on this one. The fact that he has the money to buy you a car is irrelevant. The bottom line is that you want the best of both worlds, to have a car and go be social but also not have to work so you can focus on the school. Well sweetheart, life is often unfair and almost never cake-and-eat-it-too for the average person. Your dad is saying you have to choose. So choose. There are advantages and disadvantages to both. If you want to hash those out I'm willing to help. But I suspect you won't be.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:11 pm to _Hurricane_
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P.S. Don't give me crap, this is a stupid problem, I know, I'm just looking for any of the dads on here for a solution. Also I'm about to turn 17, and almost all of my classmates have vehicles. I'm getting left behind in almost every out of school social circle because my parents won't drive me anywhere, so even though I put all the effort into academics, I don't get to enjoy the outside part of high school. I live 40 minutes away from my school because I'm on transfer so it's not like I can realistically expect someone to waste gas money to come get me.
Have your parents given you a reason why they don't think you need a car right now?
You shouldn't bother comparing yourself to your classmates. You don't really want to be like them. This is the peak of most of their lives. They'll stay around home, marry each other and never experience anything outside that little bubble. Fitting in with them should not be your goal in life.
I think you'll find out soon enough how meaningless social life in HS is. All of your fun comes in college. Keep busting your butt and you'll be rewarded. I know that doesn't make you feel any better now but this is one part of life that's about delayed gratification.
This post was edited on 6/10/16 at 4:13 pm
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:22 pm to _Hurricane_
It sounds like he is giving you some advice that will serve you in the future. You have to get innovative about things like this. Best of luck. 
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:45 pm to _Hurricane_
Become a backpage escort, doing in call work at your mom's. It'll show him how committed you are to getting a car.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:48 pm to _Hurricane_
I never let not having a car get in the way of me getting a job.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 4:52 pm to _Hurricane_
I walked to work at McDonalds when i was in high school. I saved up for my first $500 ride.
Having said that times have changed depending on where you live. My daughter is in 7th grade. I got her a phone this year finally. She had been asking for one since the 5th grade. IMO that's retarded giving a phone to a kid in middle school.
My daughter said her and 1 other kid were the only ones without phones at her school. I thought to myself "that is total bullshite."
One night i texted a friend who is the PE teacher at her school. She told me that my daughter was actually telling the truth. I was floored. Got her a phone that week.
Times have changed. I call it "white people problems"
Having said that times have changed depending on where you live. My daughter is in 7th grade. I got her a phone this year finally. She had been asking for one since the 5th grade. IMO that's retarded giving a phone to a kid in middle school.
My daughter said her and 1 other kid were the only ones without phones at her school. I thought to myself "that is total bullshite."
One night i texted a friend who is the PE teacher at her school. She told me that my daughter was actually telling the truth. I was floored. Got her a phone that week.
Times have changed. I call it "white people problems"
Posted on 6/10/16 at 5:59 pm to _Hurricane_
I'm sorry that you're in the middle of your parents' tug of war. When kids are involved, people can't get completely divorced.
The result is that the tensions that were responsible for the divorce in the first place stay in effect and the kid usually suffers. Most often the parents can't see the harm they're doing because they're so engrossed in the struggle with their ex-spouse.
It doesn't seem that either of your parents is interested in "giving in" to the other even though both seem to think that a car would benefit you. You should probably reconcile yourself to being carless in high school.
Someone mentioned that college is much more fun than high school. That is very true.
It sounds like you're making the best of a bad situation regarding your parents. Set your goal for getting help from them then for a car.
Their irrational squabbling will subside over time. I hope they see what a great kid you are and how lucky they are to have you as a son.
The result is that the tensions that were responsible for the divorce in the first place stay in effect and the kid usually suffers. Most often the parents can't see the harm they're doing because they're so engrossed in the struggle with their ex-spouse.
It doesn't seem that either of your parents is interested in "giving in" to the other even though both seem to think that a car would benefit you. You should probably reconcile yourself to being carless in high school.
Someone mentioned that college is much more fun than high school. That is very true.
It sounds like you're making the best of a bad situation regarding your parents. Set your goal for getting help from them then for a car.
Their irrational squabbling will subside over time. I hope they see what a great kid you are and how lucky they are to have you as a son.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 6:38 pm to _Hurricane_
Congrats on having a good father.
Posted on 6/10/16 at 8:23 pm to _Hurricane_
If you live in a city then the job comes before the car. You can walk/bike/taxi/uber/lyft to work.
If you live in a rural area and live 10 miles from town then a vehicle is kind of a necessity.
Maybe your Dad is looking for you to prove yourself a little bit before surprising you with a ride?
Just do what he asks, in a couple short years you won't have to deal w/ that. Get creative and find odd jobs around the neighborhood or write some code, create a derivative app delivering cat food to cat ladys and sell that shite to google and tell Dad to get on deez nuts.
anyways keep on right path, find a job, get your car, play with some titties.
eta: upon reading further, if your Dad is making child support payments and has been consistently, then your mom can frick off and do what she's supposed to do w/ those checks and take care of you. Sounds like she's unwilling to make any sacrifices to her lifestyle and again is attempting to fleece your Dad.
If she has re-married or is keeping a boyfriend on the sly to keep those checks as big as she can she can doubly frick off.
Sorry your stuck in the middle of your parents tug-o-war, use the experience in your relationships in the future and make sure you have kids with the right person that you can have a nice future with.
If you live in a rural area and live 10 miles from town then a vehicle is kind of a necessity.
Maybe your Dad is looking for you to prove yourself a little bit before surprising you with a ride?
Just do what he asks, in a couple short years you won't have to deal w/ that. Get creative and find odd jobs around the neighborhood or write some code, create a derivative app delivering cat food to cat ladys and sell that shite to google and tell Dad to get on deez nuts.
anyways keep on right path, find a job, get your car, play with some titties.
eta: upon reading further, if your Dad is making child support payments and has been consistently, then your mom can frick off and do what she's supposed to do w/ those checks and take care of you. Sounds like she's unwilling to make any sacrifices to her lifestyle and again is attempting to fleece your Dad.
If she has re-married or is keeping a boyfriend on the sly to keep those checks as big as she can she can doubly frick off.
Sorry your stuck in the middle of your parents tug-o-war, use the experience in your relationships in the future and make sure you have kids with the right person that you can have a nice future with.
This post was edited on 6/10/16 at 8:29 pm
Posted on 6/10/16 at 11:03 pm to _Hurricane_
If your parents don't want to help you get back and forth to and from work, then they should buy you a cheap car and then you pay them back. If you don't pay the money back before a set time then you lose the car.
Posted on 6/11/16 at 7:47 am to _Hurricane_
Look kid,there is a simple solution.
Start fricking one of your teachers (pick one that,your buddies aren't already fricking),get her to buy a car for you.
Your Dad will think you are the coolest son ever,then upgrade your ride to a Shelby.
Seriously though,do your school work and everything you need to do. In a year,when you are at college,none of this will matter. Most of those friends with cars,they will probably be stuck there at home forever.
That High School Social Life,I know it seems important now,but it really isn't.IMHO,you are better off staying detached from it.You will have less baggage later.
Start fricking one of your teachers (pick one that,your buddies aren't already fricking),get her to buy a car for you.
Your Dad will think you are the coolest son ever,then upgrade your ride to a Shelby.
Seriously though,do your school work and everything you need to do. In a year,when you are at college,none of this will matter. Most of those friends with cars,they will probably be stuck there at home forever.
That High School Social Life,I know it seems important now,but it really isn't.IMHO,you are better off staying detached from it.You will have less baggage later.
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