re: OT: Anyone ever been through a divorce here?

I'm thoroughly convinced that the average woman doesn't love men in the way most men think. I don't know that they know how.

Based on my experience:

1. Women love children (most of the time).

2. Women love "to be loved".

Marriage and monogamy for women is about extracting resources. I don't blame them, necessarily, I think it is biology. Women are geared to seek the alpha, and that is about their need to be provided for.

Men, likewise, have an animal instinct, and that is to avoid monogamy and bang everything that walks.

The problem is that no-fault divorce, birth control, and lack of stigma of being divorced provide very little incentive for women to make good wives. The stigma remains for men who don't "do their duty", i.e. get married in the first place, "grow up", provide, etc.

Women often get divorced out of "boredom" in a marriage.

I'm veering misogynistic a bit here, but I don't mean to. I just believe that there are biological forces at work, and marriage used to stifle the base instincts of both genders. No fault divorce and to a lesser extent, the provision of govt assistance, and the family law system that screws men over most of the time, makes it possible for women to extract resources they need for survival without providing anything to men in return. Its a helluva set up.