re: "Dear Killz" Advice and Help Column

Well, that explains everything! She is your best friend. She saw you getting close to someone, and for the first time felt threatened. She isn't sure how to handle it, and gets uncomfortable around you. You push her into telling you what's going on, and she confesses she's in love with you - knowing you're developing feelings for someone but feeling desperate enough to tell you how she feels.

She already knows you like this girl, and it won't be a surprise. But she's hurt, as well as humiliated and feeling awkward. That's going to take time. But if you're going to ask this girl out, open up the communication with your friend, and see how she responds. Maybe you can get together for lunch, or coffee - I'd stay away from booze, that'll just make her more emotional. If you get together, just tell her how much her friendship means to you, and always will. And that you've got feelings for someone, but it in no way means you don't need her friendship. Honest - but gentle.

If she isn't ready to talk to you yet, respect that. At least you tried. I'd still email her though, tell her that you really miss her friendship. And that you're going to date, but that doesn't effect how you value her as a friend. Then you've done all you can.

That's just what I'd do.