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re: Should I date a woman with kids?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:17 pm to DC RaiseHerBack
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:17 pm to DC RaiseHerBack
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Make sure she knows it's just for fun and don't meet her kids.
DC nailed it. If you're dating girls in your own age range, you're likely to run across some that have children, it's just the way it is. My rule for dating guys with kids is that I'm OK with it, but I don't meet kids until/unless I'm sure the relationship is going to last. Kids don't need a parade of mom's boyfriends, or dad's girlfriends, through their lives - they need stability. Unless you can offer that, you don't need to meet her kids. Just make sure you're on the same page with your expectations too.
I've actually never met the kids of anyone I've dated before. That will change soon though.
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Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:19 pm to DC RaiseHerBack
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If she wasn't looking for more than fricking and hanging out, I wouldn't have to ask the question would I?
Then no. Walk away. Easy question.
And DC nails it again. Don't get involved with a single parent if you're looking for different things. The kids don't deserve that.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:20 pm to DC RaiseHerBack
If she's looking for someone to date for more than just sex, move on. If she's just looking for a frick buddy, have at it. Either way, you'll want to find out what she is looking for ASAP so you don't waste your or her time, or hurt her if she's looking for something more than sex.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:28 pm to Jerry the Sailor
how old are the kids?
IMO, you're 33... a lot of women in the 30s have kids... it's just something that you're gonna have to deal with, provided you don't want to shut out a lot of opportunities.
IMO, you're 33... a lot of women in the 30s have kids... it's just something that you're gonna have to deal with, provided you don't want to shut out a lot of opportunities.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:38 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Rail her. Chicks with kids will do some crazy arse things in the sack because they are insecure and know they are undesirable, and they want you to stay.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:00 pm to LOCO5150
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because they are insecure and know they are undesirable, and they want you to stay.
Wow. I hope you're not as big a jerk as this makes you sound.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:01 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Is she hot?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:06 pm to semotruman
quote:No shite, I've found it to be just the opposite for normal people... Gotta admit that there's a bunch of fricked up people out there (both sexes) tho....
Wow. I hope you're not as big a jerk as this makes you sound.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:12 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Absolutely not
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:16 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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I'm not looking for a girlfriend. Definitely not a wife
As long as she knows that, and you avoid contact with the kids, so there is no emotional attachment they could develop, it shouldn't be a problem.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:22 pm to dallasga6
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dallasga6
Yes, there are some messed up people out there, for sure!
But the thing is, if you're over 30, and dating, you're going to meet people who have kids. And if you're a decent person, you're going to think of what's best for the kids involved, whether yours, theirs or both. And that means making sure you and the person you're dating are honest and on the same page. When kids are involved, it's not just about you. The worst thing you can do is lead on a single parent.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 5:38 pm to Jerry the Sailor
My personal theory on women with kids... it's like shopping at a scratch and dent sale. Some incredible bargains are out there on some shite that may have previously been out of your range. With that said I haven't been with anything in years that didn't have a kid, and not on purpose... my single mom radar must be broken or overactive, I'm not sure which. Be honest and upfront with your intentions though, they have enough other shite to worry about with raising kids. As stated by others, don't meet the kids unless you're serious. Sometimes it's unavoidable, and always awkward.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 7:00 pm to Jerry the Sailor
IF you want a slam piece, find one with kids and has had her tubes tied.
You're welcome.
You're welcome.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 9:07 pm to Jerry the Sailor
If you're not looking to settle down then don't frick with a woman with kids and let them get attached to you.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 9:56 pm to semotruman
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Wow. I hope you're not as big a jerk as this makes you sound.
Yet you laugh and would frick him tomorrow. Chicks like assholes and that's just the way it is.
But to trick a girl into thinking you care about her and she has kids, that's a little fricked up, but hey, you didnt get her pregnant, did you?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 10:02 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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soon-to-be divorced
Run like the wind.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 10:08 pm to Aubie Spr96
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Run like the wind.
That part has come and gone. It's all over but the recorded signatures at this point.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 10:12 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Soon-to-be divorced means not-divorced-yet. Good way to get your arse beat or worse IMO.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 10:14 pm to Aubie Spr96
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Soon-to-be divorced means not-divorced-yet.
I got it under control, maestro.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 10:37 pm to LukeSidewalker
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Wow. I hope you're not as big a jerk as this makes you sound.
Yet you laugh and would frick him tomorrow. Chicks like assholes and that's just the way it is.
Not all chicks. I outgrew my attraction to bad boys and assholes after I married and divorced one.
Jerry, I see that you're new. i hope you've found the OTB helpful to your situation.
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