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Should I date a woman with kids?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:56 pm
Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:56 pm
Without divulging too much personal info, here's my deal:
33, soon-to-be divorced, no kids (and not really interested in having any of my own any time soon)
Is the fact that a women has kids already a deal breaker?
I'm not looking for a girlfriend. Definitely not a wife. Can't decide if I'm okay with fricking Timmy's mom just for fun until I'm ready to settle down again.
Pros/cons from those who've been there?
33, soon-to-be divorced, no kids (and not really interested in having any of my own any time soon)
Is the fact that a women has kids already a deal breaker?
I'm not looking for a girlfriend. Definitely not a wife. Can't decide if I'm okay with fricking Timmy's mom just for fun until I'm ready to settle down again.
Pros/cons from those who've been there?
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Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:57 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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no kids (and not really interested in having any of my own any time soon)
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I'm not looking for a girlfriend. Definitely not a wife. Can't decide if I'm okay with fricking Timmy's mom just for fun until I'm ready to settle down again.
Looks like your answer is somewhere in here
Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:57 pm to Jerry the Sailor
I don't think I could, but I'm only 23.
Whatever you do, make sure you let the woman know what you want ahead of time.
Whatever you do, make sure you let the woman know what you want ahead of time.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:58 pm to bamafan425
How old are the kids, and is she looking for a boyfriend?
If they are young or the answer is yes, just take a trip to vegas and flash some cash. Will be cheaper and less stress in the long run.
If they are young or the answer is yes, just take a trip to vegas and flash some cash. Will be cheaper and less stress in the long run.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 3:58 pm to HandGrenade
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Looks like your answer is somewhere in here
I'm about to pop a capillary I'm straining so hard to see it.
This post was edited on 6/4/13 at 3:59 pm
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:00 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Make sure she knows it's just for fun and don't meet her kids.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:01 pm to CheeseburgerEddie
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How old are the kids, and is she looking for a boyfriend?
Different ages, depending on which woman we're talking about... but all of them are under 10.
If she wasn't looking for more than fricking and hanging out, I wouldn't have to ask the question would I?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:02 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Don't meet the kids.
Tell her you aren't looking to be someone's dad right now.
PIIHB.
Tell her you aren't looking to be someone's dad right now.
PIIHB.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:02 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Well, it looks to me like you don't want kids and you don't want to settle down. So it's up to you to take on that responsibility. Unless she doesn't want to settle down either then it's fair game
then it's fair gamePosted on 6/4/13 at 4:03 pm to bamafan425
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PIIHB.
Some things are just assumed to be a given, brahski.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:03 pm to Jerry the Sailor
hookers are your friends.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:05 pm to CheeseburgerEddie
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hookers are your friends.
Call me old-fashioned, or maybe I'm just too damn chivalrous, but I kinda want to frick a woman who actually wants to frick me back.
I realize I've narrowed my choices significantly by making that distinction.
This post was edited on 6/4/13 at 4:16 pm
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:06 pm to Jerry the Sailor
If you're not ready to settle down, i wouldn't do it. It could get complicated fast bro.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:07 pm to Jerry the Sailor
you'll probably end up marrying her and take care of her kids. run now if you can.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:07 pm to Jerry the Sailor
I'm not a single mom, but here's my take on it. Be up front with her that you're not looking for anything serious.
Any woman with kids worth dating is going to put her kids before you, the new guy. The ones I've been around have usually not been looking for casual relationships either. They're worried about introducing too many different men into their kids' lives. So even if she says she's not looking for anything serious, be skeptical.
Furthermore, if you self admittedly don't want kids of your own, what complications could there be if this relationship progresses farther than you originally intended?
Just my $.02, and again, I'm not a single mom, but this is how I would think if I were.
Any woman with kids worth dating is going to put her kids before you, the new guy. The ones I've been around have usually not been looking for casual relationships either. They're worried about introducing too many different men into their kids' lives. So even if she says she's not looking for anything serious, be skeptical.
Furthermore, if you self admittedly don't want kids of your own, what complications could there be if this relationship progresses farther than you originally intended?
Just my $.02, and again, I'm not a single mom, but this is how I would think if I were.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:08 pm to Jerry the Sailor
Oh they want to. Who was it that said "you don't pay a whore to frick you, you pay her to leave".
But i grew up in an age of internet porn that has jaded my generation to theses things. God help the next generation with what they are able to access in middle school.
But i grew up in an age of internet porn that has jaded my generation to theses things. God help the next generation with what they are able to access in middle school.
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:10 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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If she wasn't looking for more than fricking and hanging out, I wouldn't have to ask the question would I?
FWIW...I've found that most sane divorced women with young kids are pretty straight forward about what they are lookin' for in a relationship. They tend to insulate their children from new boyfriends for a decent amount of time, just to be sure he's "the right guy" & not wanting to parade a bunch of guys thru the house to just confuse & hurt the kids more than the divorce did...
If it's a fairly new relationship & she's trying to get her kids involved with you from the get go, she's just lookin' for a baby daddy & a paycheck.... Be careful... JMO...
This post was edited on 6/4/13 at 4:14 pm
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:12 pm to Jerry the Sailor
I'vevdone it a few times. Some chicks are cool about it and dont try to use the kid against you. Some are looking for a dad for their kid tho... Be careful
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:13 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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Is the fact that a women has kids already a deal breaker?
Are they too old to take on some of your traits? If so, go for it. If not...
j/k
Or am I?
Posted on 6/4/13 at 4:13 pm to Jerry the Sailor
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If she wasn't looking for more than fricking and hanging out, I wouldn't have to ask the question would I?
Then no. Walk away. Easy question.
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