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Trumansfangs
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Town & Country
Member since Sep 2018
742 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
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I'm fully aware there will be a-hole posts mixed in here.


You were correct.

Beating depression isn't easy, but wallowing in it and becoming mired can be disastrous.

The most encouraging part of your post was reading that you go to therapy weekly. We all need a way to vent, a compassionate listener, a professional or a trusted confidential friend is very important .

If the people you were involved with and the resulting situation make you sad and depressed, its okay to move on. Don't harbor anger, and most importantly don't develop a sense of guilt about the issues.

Find something thats really fun to do. When you were a child did you have a favorite hobby ? Some people like to swim, the physical exertion and knowing thats its exercise ( my deal is punching the heavy bag at the gym ) give them a good feeling about themselves.

On occasion, it just feels good, uplifting really, to make new friends. It looks like you've made some good ones here. I'd be honored to be counted among them.



Kentucker
Kentucky Fan
Lexington
Member since Apr 2013
13862 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
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I go to therapy weekly, take stuff for anxiety, work out, play team sports, etc. I also have a great job, great family, great friends. All these things should be helping but no such luck so far.


The only thing you might be doing wrong is not being totally honest with your therapist. Let her/him see this thread.

Sometimes it's a lot easier to be completely open anonymously. I suspect that may be why you're appealing to strangers for feedback here. Talking about personal issues face to face can be quite intimidating, even to someone whose profession it is to help.

Resolve to put everything on the table in your therapy sessions. Let your therapist decide what is of consequence and what isn't, for now. She or he will teach you how to weight the issues in your life. Once you learn what's important and, most significantly, what isn't, your life will be sunnier. I promise.



UASports23
Army Fan
Member since Nov 2009
19730 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
As someone who battles depression. I agree with all of these statements.


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Quit focusing on yourself and how you feel. Act instead of contemplating.


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why do you let your psycho ex have an impact on your life? that's your fault straight talk


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why is she allowed to make contact? why? why was she allowed to do that?


sounds like she runs your life



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I hope things get better for you soon. Just remember that just because things are bleak right now, doesnt mean that they will always be like that. That is what gives me hope for myself.


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Arksulli
Arkansas Fan
Fayetteville
Member since Aug 2014
14986 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
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The only thing you might be doing wrong is not being totally honest with your therapist. Let her/him see this thread.

Sometimes it's a lot easier to be completely open anonymously. I suspect that may be why you're appealing to strangers for feedback here. Talking about personal issues face to face can be quite intimidating, even to someone whose profession it is to help.

Resolve to put everything on the table in your therapy sessions. Let your therapist decide what is of consequence and what isn't, for now. She or he will teach you how to weight the issues in your life. Once you learn what's important and, most significantly, what isn't, your life will be sunnier. I promise.


As the old saying goes, there are things I wouldn't tell my priest that I would tell my bartender.

Kentucker is right. Put all your cards on the table with your therapist. Nothing you say will surprise them.


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Maytheporkbewithyou
Arkansas Fan
Member since Aug 2016
6270 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
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PigKahuna


Sorry that you're going through stuff like this. I've been lucky enough to never have to deal with something like this so I have no helpful words for you. Hope things turn around for you.


PigKahuna
Arkansas Fan
Mud Pit
Member since Jan 2019
72 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
Thank you all. Again, I read every word of your advice. I feel like I've been honest in therapy but I'll take a good, hard look at myself as I continue. I'm kind of tough to crack and stuff has been coming off in layers, if that makes sense.


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Commander Data
Alabama Fan
Titletown, USA
Member since Dec 2016
5334 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
I don't care if it is not popular here but sister, the truth is that the Lord is waiting on you. He loves you and even lived as a human, suffered losses like you and ultimately died for you. Matthew 11:28 says Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. I promise you that he will be there for you just like he was and is for me. I would be happy to talk to you more about our Lord Jesus Christ and his great love for you if you are interested.


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Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
34935 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
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I enjoy building gardens. Putting one's hands in the dirt frequently helps fight depression.


Spoken like an old southern woman.

Seriously tho, I worked on a farm because I had to but as I get older I do like a backyard garden.

Dog can help to as cats are too independent. You can be in a deep funk but it can not withstand a fierce attack of dog nose.

Image: https://www.dogster.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Dog-nose-zoom-in-close-up.jpg


Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
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Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
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Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
34935 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
When in doubt, lick your BFF (which in this case should be you)

Image: https://cmeimg-a.akamaihd.net/640/cme/cuteness_data/s3fs-public/diy_blog/What-Does-it-Mean-If-a-Dog-Licks-Another-Dog.jpg




In all seriousness tho, sometimes the best way to battle depression to get outside yourself and help make somebody else's day. Local pet adoption places are usually looking for volunteers and "care" therapy does as much for me as the critters.


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BoarEd
Arkansas Fan
thatguy45's sister house
Member since Oct 2015
10428 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
It's something about the microbes in the soil having an antidepressant affect on the body. There's science in it. And apparently it is a strong antidepressant. I can personally vouch for it though. I've battled depression in the past. Severe depression. Lasted for a long time too.

Gardening and yoga have changed my life. There's something about the realization that all that you are comes from the soil below your feet and the sun above your head that just does the body good.

OH, OP, I haven't personally tried this one yet, but apparently one of the best things a person can do to fight depression is simply make it a habit to spend time each and every day standing outside without any shoes on. They call it grounding and people report profound effects. I have little dount it would work too. As it seems to work on the same concept as gardening and yoga.

Reconnect with the soil beneath your feet. It changes your perspective.


PigKahuna
Arkansas Fan
Mud Pit
Member since Jan 2019
72 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
You all are awesome, thank you.

I am going away for awhile to take care of myself. Time for a reboot.



BoarEd
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Member since Oct 2015
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Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
34935 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
If you are in Hot Springs I think they have a place there to reboot.

Do you have a pet?


PigKahuna
Arkansas Fan
Mud Pit
Member since Jan 2019
72 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
I'm not too far from Hot Springs but I'm thinking bigger. I have a friend in Florida and will take a leave of absence from work and hang out there a bit.

I have some things to "shake" and I think a change of scenery will help.

Yes, I have 2 sweet dogs and they are awesome.


Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
34935 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
What kind of dogs?


PigKahuna
Arkansas Fan
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Member since Jan 2019
72 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
They are both mutts I rescued.


Cheese Grits
LSU Fan
Wherever I lay my hat is my home
Member since Apr 2012
34935 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
Those make the best kind.

My current pair are hound mutts.



PigKahuna
Arkansas Fan
Mud Pit
Member since Jan 2019
72 posts

re: Can't shake the depression...
I've been a dog person all my life and have had many over the years starting from childhood. These have been the best dogs I've ever had.


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