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Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:22 pm to The Spleen
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:22 pm to The Spleen
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Thing is she is very popular in school and has tons of friends. She's never had a problem making friends, and is very social if she's in a situation where she's comfortable. I was kind of the same way in that I had a bunch of friends, but she is way more outgoing than I ever was. But if either one of us get in a social situation we're not comfortable with, we clam up and want to get out of that situation ASAP.
You both sound "normal" to me. There are some social situations I'd pay to get out of and others that I thoroughly enjoy. Maybe you're overreacting?
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Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:25 pm to MasCervezas
I'm not familiar with this but could you not force yourself to try to overcome it by starting out with lighter situations where you are only slightly uncomfortable and slowly build confidence?
Or just take Xanax
Or just take Xanax
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:27 pm to The Spleen
There is a legal(in most states) powdered leaf I take called Kratom. It has done wonders for me as far as being more sociable and works great for pain as well. I don't recommend it for kids though. Like someone above posted sports are a great way to get kids to open up and maybe find a great friend or two. Normal is boring anyway.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:33 pm to Kentucker
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Maybe you're overreacting?
Maybe I am for her, but I was actually diagnosed with it. I kind of over-simplified the situation in what you quoted. It's basically an overwhelming, sometimes crippling feeling when placed in certain situations. It goes beyond just being uncomfortable. It's hard to explain, and if I did it would almost just sound like I'm being a pussy.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:42 pm to The Spleen
I had a bout of bad panic attacks when I was around 20 then again when I was 28 when my brother passed. The shite would just come out of nowhere, which would cause even more anxiety because you don't want to be embarrassed as hell over feeling like you're about to pass the hell out for no direct reason. They put me on a really mild dose of Ativan (FWIW they gave me Xanax initially and all that shite did was make me comatose). I would take the Ativan when the initial signs would come on. Made a world of difference. Haven't had a panic attack in about 4 years. So I wouldn't necessarily rule out medication if it gets severe enough.
Maybe she can look into something like yoga. The breath control might help with the anxiety as well.
Maybe she can look into something like yoga. The breath control might help with the anxiety as well.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:56 pm to deltaland
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I'm not familiar with this but could you not force yourself to try to overcome it by starting out with lighter situations where you are only slightly uncomfortable and slowly build confidence?
well yeah, that's pretty much the best way to do it. I'm fine for the most part now. I still have the normal nervousness, but it's not crippling to me like it used to be.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 1:57 pm to BluegrassBelle
I had some social anxiety as a kid. The 2 best things that helped with this was getting a job as a waiter. This job forced me to talk to strangers and do a type of sales as well. Joining a fraternity in college threw me into a new and huge social situation where I was forced to adapt quickly. Also probably working out helped a lot. As I started to get bigger and stronger it helped my confidence as well as decreased the number of people who wanted to mess with me.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 2:02 pm to The Spleen
For extreme cases, some kind of exposure-response prevention therapy might be useful. I had (and sometimes have) high levels of anxiety around certain situations because I have OCD. My OCD is not really about flipping switches on and off or making sure everything is nice and neat -- it's more ruminating on unpleasant thoughts. The way I was treated was through ERP, which is based around the idea that, when exposed to the uncomfortable situation, we begin to experience and panic and seek to escape it. The response prevention part is the recognition that our feelings will sort themselves out and that escape is ultimately a fruitless endeavor.
It's a built up process, though. They wouldn't just throw someone into an extremely uncomfortable social situation. You start small and work your way up. It really helped me with a lot of my anxieties.
It's a built up process, though. They wouldn't just throw someone into an extremely uncomfortable social situation. You start small and work your way up. It really helped me with a lot of my anxieties.
Posted on 10/31/14 at 5:46 pm to The Spleen
I never had problems with social anxiety until college. High school was fine since I went to school with the same people all my life. Parties in college could be overwhelming at times with so many people coming and going.
The only times I have bad anxiety now is if I go to restaurants alone or inside a bank.
Walking up to a group of people where I only know one person in the group can cause a lot of anxiety as well.
Also people in authority bother me too.
The only times I have bad anxiety now is if I go to restaurants alone or inside a bank.
Walking up to a group of people where I only know one person in the group can cause a lot of anxiety as well.
Also people in authority bother me too.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 2:57 am to The Spleen
I was diagnosed with this three years ago and it has really impacted my life. It got so bad once that I completely withdrew from classes and didn't leave my room for eight straight days. I couldn't even speak to my little cousins who were six and eight years old at the time. Before this I considered myself an outgoing person. I had many friends, played college football, and led a local bible study at a friends dorm. However it progressively got worse until that eighth day in my room when I sat on the end of my bed and thought about shooting myself. I never would've done it but the thought of me having these thoughts scared the heck out of me. Since my family has a tendency to overreact to things, I talked to my preacher at my church about it and he referred me to a Christian counselor. Talking to the counselor has saved my life. I also found I had thyroid issues and began taking meds for hypothyroidism which helped TREMENDOUSLY with my anxiety. I also started taking a small dose of Paxil about a year ago to help even more. I'm finally back to wear I can sit in a classroom again and talk to people but it still is a struggle and like a dark cloud over my head everyday, but is slowly getting better. This is a very vague description of what I've been through but this condition has reshaped every aspect of my life. I would most definitely reccomend you seeking help finding your way through this. Look at how you had to cope with it and think of what your daughter might do to do the same. I hope it all works out for you man!
Posted on 11/1/14 at 3:39 am to Wtodd
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Nope don't have it but I hate people in general because they suck so there's that.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 7:51 am to The Spleen
I actually prefer large groups to individual conversation, because it's much easier to find things to talk about and most people are kinda awkward one on one.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 7:59 am to The Spleen
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I suffer from it and have never gotten treatment
Posted on 11/1/14 at 8:12 am to Roger Klarvin
I don't like any situation where I'm required to speak.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 8:26 am to Chris4x4gill2
That sounds more like Asperger's. Has nephew been diagnosed?
Posted on 11/1/14 at 8:29 am to pvilleguru
Really no one does, just force yourself to do it. You have posted in some Greek threads here, negatively. That's really where I gained public speaking confidence.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 8:51 am to Kritten
quote:Joining a frat is literally one of the last things I would ever want to do.
You have posted in some Greek threads here, negatively. That's really where I gained public speaking confidence.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 9:10 am to The Spleen
Social anxiety?
Sounds like fancy words for being shy.
They do have a pill for it, however.
I simply self-medicated with alcohol. Saved the doctor's fee.
Sounds like fancy words for being shy.
They do have a pill for it, however.
I simply self-medicated with alcohol. Saved the doctor's fee.
Posted on 11/1/14 at 9:39 am to The Spleen
There are good meds for this. Dude, do it now before the kid discovers drugs socially. We have one daughter who had real serious drug addiction problems that started with a desire to self medicate for these reasons.
See your regular doctor, then a child psychologist for an evaluation, then try some form of anti anxiety med. Its not all xanax.
See your regular doctor, then a child psychologist for an evaluation, then try some form of anti anxiety med. Its not all xanax.
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