7 Crippling parent behaviors that keep children from growing into leaders

Seems legit.

In other words, shitty kids grow up to be shitty parents and the cycle continues. Sounds right to me

Good list, but I'll take the faults of overparenting over those of under parenting every time. I get particularly annoyed by parents who don't care about or actively discourage their kids from achieving academically.

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Good list, but I'll take the faults of overparenting over those of under parenting every time. I get particularly annoyed by parents who don't care about or actively discourage their kids from achieving academically.

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Honestly, I think it depends. "Overparenting" sometimes can be just as harmful as "Under Parenting". I'm not talking about parents who are a little bit more active in their kid's lives. But the ones who overparent to the point that they're literally stunting their child's development, especially socially.

Most people like the idea of being a parent more than actually being a parent which is probably what you're experiencing.

Well let me put it this way, the kid is 3 and a half and isn't remotely potty trained and they don't attempt to potty train him. It's like their to lazy to do it

Also he only uses 6-7 words, and a couple of those I don't think he even knows what they mean. This part makes me worry about his mental development which may not be the parents fault

I've read in a couple of places that Gen X'ers are over protective parents because of the lack of parenting they had. Generantional therory has one new hoard replacing the dyineg one.

"Gen X is composed of children of divorce, latchkey kids, self-reliant cynics whose parents were fairly hands-off. Generational observers have charted X’s response to parenting: to correct their parents’ mistakes. They’re hands-on."

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Here is another interesting take on generational theory, that labels and notes cycles in American history and the different groups.

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Having a child with my current live-in girlfriend, I've found that deification is the biggest obstacle. Her family loves to swarm and flatter and when our child doesn't receive the same treatment later she has no way to really cope with it. There's no one way to be a good parent, but I've learned being objective and eliminating worship is the best antidote to your child thinking they're the sun and the moon.

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It's not any worse than it has been its just amplified because of the Internet. Over parenting didn't just suddenly become widespread it just got published on your news feed

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I think the answer is in there -- internet. Parents for the most part have unprecedented observation over their children now. I think as a matter of safety it's necessary, but only for safety.

Parents these days find themselves GIVING the answers rather than teaching their children to search for truth, which is an unusually powerful weapon in your fight to become an adult.

Like the Florida fan said the wealth of information and sharing over the Internet has made it seem more uniform whereas before you kind of had wing it. I blame shitty Pinterest ideas for most of it.