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Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:05 pm
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:05 pm
Had my annual float trip w/ 7 brothers cancelled in July rescheduled for this weekend 
because of flash flooding in southern Missouri. I must make a decision to attend Murray St game or be annoyed all weekend by my family (don't really like some of them, but it's the one time of year we all get together) BTW both will involve drinking
because of flash flooding in southern Missouri. I must make a decision to attend Murray St game or be annoyed all weekend by my family (don't really like some of them, but it's the one time of year we all get together) BTW both will involve drinking This post was edited on 8/28/13 at 1:36 pm
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Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:14 pm to MizzouSEC2012
Go float, it's the Murray State game and family is important.
I strongly suggest never having a scheduling conflict like this again, though.
I strongly suggest never having a scheduling conflict like this again, though.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:22 pm to MizzouSEC2012
If you don't go to the game can I have your ticket for my brother?
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:24 pm to zou_keeper
float and listen to the game on the radio (internet radio if you have to). best of both worlds.
I did this last year. worked perfectly...unless you're a retard and can't figure out internet radio.
Do you still hate your dad?
I did this last year. worked perfectly...unless you're a retard and can't figure out internet radio.
Do you still hate your dad?
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:31 pm to mizzoukills
Yeah I haven't spoken to him since late sophomore year when I lost my health insurance and thank god he isn't in any physical condition to go this year the last I heard he had one foot in the grave already (really the only reason I kept any sort of contact with him at all yes I know it sounds like I was using him but you don't know the half of it)
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:33 pm to zou_keeper
Yeah I should know for sure by Friday if we're going to go this year because that's when we finds out if my brother who is having his third kid (Prayers Sent) wive is due about the same time so he might just cancel it all together
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:33 pm to zou_keeper
Nm
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Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:44 pm to MizzouSEC2012
the moment your father dies you'll regret that you didn't reach out to him and attempt to repair your relationship.
of course you'll steadfastly argue this with me and any other poster who will tell you that I'm right.
I already feel sad for you because I know how you'll feel the moment you hear news that he'd died at some point in the future.
of course you'll steadfastly argue this with me and any other poster who will tell you that I'm right.
I already feel sad for you because I know how you'll feel the moment you hear news that he'd died at some point in the future.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 12:56 pm to mizzoukills
It's both my parents not just him, we have irreconcilable differences which simply can't be forgiven, or forgotten. They've put our entire family through a tremendous amount of emotional, and physical abuse. You can't say I didn't try because I went to counseling and gained nothing from it, but also lost nothing and feel like I don't really need them anyway because I've already had someone else assume their role.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 1:22 pm to MizzouSEC2012
I'm not trying to be rude to you or make you feel bad...I just know from experience.
People make big mistakes that negatively impact other people. I understand why you feel you can't reconcile.
However, you can only understand what I'm talking about if you go through it yourself. You'll understand the moment you receive the call, the notification that a parent has died. Words cannot express the emotions that you'll be flooded with in that moment.
I don't envy your future.
But, there is something you can do about it now...
People make big mistakes that negatively impact other people. I understand why you feel you can't reconcile.
However, you can only understand what I'm talking about if you go through it yourself. You'll understand the moment you receive the call, the notification that a parent has died. Words cannot express the emotions that you'll be flooded with in that moment.
I don't envy your future.
But, there is something you can do about it now...
This post was edited on 8/26/13 at 1:29 pm
Posted on 8/26/13 at 1:27 pm to mizzoukills
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You'll understand the moment you receive the call, the notification that a parent has died. Words cannot express the emotions that you'll be flooded with in that moment.
Truth. My dad could drive me crazy. But I miss him every day, and sometimes I wish I could talk to him so badly it makes me cry.
Sometimes people don't know how to say they're sorry, or make amends. They don't even know how to start. But if they just had an opening, they'd muddle their way through.
Oh, and It's Murray State. Go floating with the family.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 1:35 pm to semotruman
I sometimes actually convince myself that my dad is out in the world on a long trip and that he may call any day.
Of course that's just fantasy, but from time-to-time I get an odd feeling that he's still alive.
It's weird. Whenever I experience an episode like that, I realize that he's dead the entire time (of course). But, the feeling is so strong that I just roll with it and become a player in an otherworldly fantasy that lasts about 10 minutes.
When it ends and I'm brought back to reality, old memories flood my mind and heart and I just become a zombie for a while...lost in the past.
Regret is no friend, MS2. Regret is the worst thing in the world.
Of course that's just fantasy, but from time-to-time I get an odd feeling that he's still alive.
It's weird. Whenever I experience an episode like that, I realize that he's dead the entire time (of course). But, the feeling is so strong that I just roll with it and become a player in an otherworldly fantasy that lasts about 10 minutes.
When it ends and I'm brought back to reality, old memories flood my mind and heart and I just become a zombie for a while...lost in the past.
Regret is no friend, MS2. Regret is the worst thing in the world.
This post was edited on 8/26/13 at 7:09 pm
Posted on 8/26/13 at 5:14 pm to mizzoukills
Posted on 8/26/13 at 5:22 pm to the808bass
I called my dad after reading this shite too.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 5:27 pm to MizzouSEC2012
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MizzouSEC2012
Go floating. Listen to the game and make sure to record judge wapner and you'll be good. Pack extra underwear because they don't have Kmart down in those parts.
Remember to bring your arm floaties...
This post was edited on 8/26/13 at 5:28 pm
Posted on 8/26/13 at 7:00 pm to MizzouSEC2012
Go to the game.
They only play Murray St. one time this year. If you miss them, that's it. No more Murray St.
They only play Murray St. one time this year. If you miss them, that's it. No more Murray St.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 7:17 pm to Remote Controlled
My intention wasn't to depress everyone.
If anything I'm trying to do the opposite...I'm trying to make people understand that any moment could be the moment, and when the moment happens it'll be too late to say anything.
You'll feel like a part of yourself died that day.
That time will come for all of us. It's inevitable. No matter if you had great or shitty parents, you might as well prepare yourself for that time by being a loving child. Forgive them for their faults. Marriage and parenting can be incredibly stressful and good people make terrible decisions sometimes. Also, some people simply have bad luck and life doesn't work out as they dreamed when they were in their teens and 20s.
Ours parents, great or shitty, have all performed one specific miracle...they created us. For that, we are forever in debt to them.
Be thankful and appreciative.
If anything I'm trying to do the opposite...I'm trying to make people understand that any moment could be the moment, and when the moment happens it'll be too late to say anything.
You'll feel like a part of yourself died that day.
That time will come for all of us. It's inevitable. No matter if you had great or shitty parents, you might as well prepare yourself for that time by being a loving child. Forgive them for their faults. Marriage and parenting can be incredibly stressful and good people make terrible decisions sometimes. Also, some people simply have bad luck and life doesn't work out as they dreamed when they were in their teens and 20s.
Ours parents, great or shitty, have all performed one specific miracle...they created us. For that, we are forever in debt to them.
Be thankful and appreciative.
This post was edited on 8/26/13 at 7:19 pm
Posted on 8/26/13 at 7:23 pm to mizzoukills
I didn't talk to my old man for about five years because he was an a-hole.
Once I saw it from his side I still thought he was an a-hole through my eyes, but I understand why he did what he did.
I don't know your situation MS2, but I can almost guarantee that you'll personally gain more from a relationship with your old man than you will from winning some grudge.
Hell, you've already won the grudge, go talk to the old man.
If he's a real piece of shite, don't listen, but don't let your immature shite convince you that he's an a-hole before you talk to him, assuming that's a possibility.
Same goes for mom.
Once I saw it from his side I still thought he was an a-hole through my eyes, but I understand why he did what he did.
I don't know your situation MS2, but I can almost guarantee that you'll personally gain more from a relationship with your old man than you will from winning some grudge.
Hell, you've already won the grudge, go talk to the old man.
If he's a real piece of shite, don't listen, but don't let your immature shite convince you that he's an a-hole before you talk to him, assuming that's a possibility.
Same goes for mom.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 7:30 pm to Mizzeaux
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I didn't talk to my old man for about five years because he was an a-hole.
Once I saw it from his side I still thought he was an a-hole through my eyes, but I understand why he did what he did.
I don't know your situation MS2, but I can almost guarantee that you'll personally gain more from a relationship with your old man than you will from winning some grudge.
Hell, you've already won the grudge, go talk to the old man.
If he's a real piece of shite, don't listen, but don't let your immature shite convince you that he's an a-hole before you talk to him, assuming that's a possibility.
Same goes for mom.
Agree.
Ms2, talk to pops.
I've just recently been a lot friendlier with my dad, the past hasn't changed, but its just better to let things go and use the precious time we have together. You'll build character by not holding a grudge.
Posted on 8/26/13 at 7:31 pm to mograyback
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You'll build character by not holding a grudge.
Plus, there's a select group of people in this entire world with which you have a real bond. To throw that away because of drama is really pointless.
Family is all.
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