is sex better when you're in love

Sex is like golf or school or any other activity. You enjoy it more as you get better at it. Comes with practice and experience.

Best advice is to find a willing partner (friendship is a good baseline) and start hammering away until you figure it out. Keep your expectations low, and your mind open. Don't worry about love or marriage or guilt or being 'good' or anything like that.

Finding a partner who has a relaxed attitude about it is better than being in love or having a lot of pressure on both parties to perform or live up to some expectations.

Baw, you live in Wetumpka? I just moved here this week...for the second time.

Sex is a biological function. Love is a binding emotion.

Too many people confuse the two.

Yep, waiting isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as you know the first couple times it WILL be awkward before, during, and after. Definitely let whatever partner you end up with know that it'll be your first, so there may be some "growing pains."

But as to the question in the OP, it all depends on what you define as better. Better sex-wise is usually when you don't care so much about the other, like a drunken one night stand. You can go all out and do something you normally wouldn't knowing you may never see this woman/man again and let any kind of inhibitions go out the door.

Emotion and guilt-wise it is definitely better with someone you love, or at least are in a serious relationship with. It's just a different level and hard to explain unless you've experienced it, no offense to the OP.

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You can go all out and do something you normally wouldn't knowing you may never see this woman/man again and let any kind of inhibitions go out the door

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I do that anyway.

Sex is best when you're doing it.

That damn casino always takes my money. But yeah, there's not much here. I typically go to Lake Martin, though.

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and yes I started this thread because its boring night nothing on tv. I can't give an opinion because im still a virgin being raised in a Christian family I believe in holding onto virginity until marriage. but I've never been married either so again I can't give an opinion

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Sex can be many things, but the more you care about the person, the better it is in my opinion. Make up sex is fun because that person drives you crazy, and you were insanely mad at them, but damn if you don't just want to be inside them more than anything. One night stands are never as fun as you think them to be. I've never dated a girl that gave it up on the first night, anyway.

And holding on to your virginity til marriage is something you might care about, but I'd suggest giving it up. I know staying a virgin til marriage works for some people, but a lot of others it just leads to poor expectations and the inability to separate lust from love. One of my really good friends is a 27 year old virgin. Beautiful girl. Went to Auburn. Dated a minor league baseball player. It consumed so much of their relationship that they are broken up after 7 years. Now, I think they'll probably get back together, but it has given her a really unhealthy expectation for sex. It shouldn't be the center of a relationship, it should be an extension. But it's so fundamental in who we are as creatures, it's almost impossible to learn how have a healthy sex life without going through the motions, as it were.

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One night stands are never as fun as you think them to be. I've never dated a girl that gave it up on the first night, anyway

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Ummm, gonna disagree with you here. They are plenty enough fricking fun to continue doing them.

And if I'm reading this right, you're saying you haven't had one? If that's the case, how can you say they aren't as fun as you think them to be? Maybe they're 4 times more fun than you can imagine them to be.