Hey Chef

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Hey Chef
WTF?

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Yep, shite happens. Sorry Chef is having to go through this mess.

Wow, sorry to hear all of that. Hopefully it works out for you and she just realizes her mistakes and accepts responsibility.

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she just realizes her mistakes and accepts responsibility.

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The one thing I do know isn't going to happen. You don't pull off this level of systematic theft and deception without weighing your options on who has to take the fall if there is one

When this is over ill probably only see her at my mothers funeral years from now and even then I won't speak to her . The saying that a person is "dead to you" ? Yeah.

It is what it is. But thanks yall

Honestly Idk. As bad as it is, she's put me in a position where I'm the only one defending or protecting my side of this

Everyone else has been in CYA mode long before I even knew what was happening

Hence me saying she's literally making me choose between sueing everyone involved and forcing them to prosecute her or walk away from this with nothing

For the love of money people will do anything...I hate it for you chef, tough decisions to make but like it was said by so many others with no dog in the fight and an unbiased opinion, you did nothing wrong. Its best to defend yourself, your family and what's rightfully yours or so opens the door for all to walk over you. I wish you the best in the hard road ahead.

beach co? hired around 04?

I feel for ya Chef. My father-in-law, about 12 years ago, was the director of security for a large retail department store (don't want to name it but everyone knows it). As a very high level executive he had access to petty-box monies. Meaning he could just go to the cash/credit window and sign out pretty much whatever cash he wanted and say it was for taking a vendor to lunch or entertainment or he was paying a consultant or an off duty police officer to walk around certain stores, etc etc, and nobody would question it.

Well this department store chain filed for bankruptcy and got audited. Come to find out, he had embezzled around $200,000 from the company with these petty cash vouchers over a 10 year period ( he had worked 22 years with the company).

And yeah, he got caught, found guilty of a felony, and did 4 month in prison and 5 years probation. Unfortunately, in his 3rd year of probation, he died of a heart attack mowing his lawn.

So I get your situation. It sucks for everyone. This was a very wealthy white collar family. The guy already made like $300k a year. But apparently he needed more and took advantage of the access his power gave him.

You lose a lot of respect and now they're a burden to everyone and you gotta look them in the face still and they you, both knowing their disgrace. It's tough. Good luck.

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When this is over ill probably only see her at my mothers funeral years from now and even then I won't speak to her . The saying that a person is "dead to you" ? Yeah.

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I can relate on this part. My younger brother went to stay with his dad (my ex-stepdad) the day I went in the army. Went for a weekend and just stayed. He had a lot of money, whole family well off, and my mom was broke so she couldn't fight it and ended up lapsing into drugs, etc.

Long story short, my little brother comes down to our town the Christmas of the year we got married, got his presents and left, and I've never spoken to him again. This was 12 fricking years ago. And we're not talking Alaska or some shite, 45 minutes up the road.

Our grandmother (who never made any difference in us, loved us both the same) died wanting to see him and he didn't bother coming down. Not while she was sick and not afterwards, didn't even call. And he was in his early 20's then.

Then a couple of years ago, when my youngest boy died, nothing.

So yeah, it would be better for him if I never run across him again. Blood only goes so far...

Good luck.

My mom has a similar story with her sister(my aunt) who ended a marriage after 20 years, left her three daughters with the husband she jilted, took her son out West to CO and married a guido.

She hasn't been back to GA in 7 years, despite my grandparents failing health