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Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:00 am
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:00 am
So a month ago I signed my life away to my now fiancée. We are in the process of booking our venue (it usually fills up 15 month in advance) I am set on having a Saturday wedding but she is very money conservative (opposite of me) and really wants to do the wedding on a Thursday (Day Before Veterans Day). We save $4100 if we choose the Thursday over the Saturday.
My question is:
Has anyone had a Weekday wedding? If so, was the attendance way below expected because it is during the week?
Her argument is that the people we care about will be there no matter what day its on. I just feel like having people take time off of work is a bit selfish. I need an argument to keep it on Saturday but financially it makes sense to move it to Thursday; and it is what the bride wants, I just don't want to look like a cheap arse (I have the money; she just wants to use it for other things)
Thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
My question is:
Has anyone had a Weekday wedding? If so, was the attendance way below expected because it is during the week?
Her argument is that the people we care about will be there no matter what day its on. I just feel like having people take time off of work is a bit selfish. I need an argument to keep it on Saturday but financially it makes sense to move it to Thursday; and it is what the bride wants, I just don't want to look like a cheap arse (I have the money; she just wants to use it for other things)
Thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
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Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:02 am to 3andOut
We had our wedding on a Friday, but we also had 10 people in a condo and a JOP in scrubs do a three minute ceremony.
I do think it should be on a weekend to be considerate to your guests. You're hosting a party for them, don't be a dick and make people miss work to show up.
I do think it should be on a weekend to be considerate to your guests. You're hosting a party for them, don't be a dick and make people miss work to show up.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:02 am to 3andOut
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Her argument is that the people we care about will be there no matter what day its on.
Don't bet on it. The "happiest day of your lives" is just another wedding to them, and if important parts of their lives take place on the weekday, they won't be there.
Day wedding or night wedding on weekday?
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:02 am to 3andOut
You've already hit the big points. Saving that much money would be huge...but you HAVE to expect that a lot of people that might normally attend wouldn't on a weekday. Just depends on what you value more.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:06 am to PrivatePublic
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Day wedding or night wedding on weekday?
Thursday Night 5pm or 6pm the following day is veterans day and most of our friends have government jobs so they are already off Friday. Its them having to take off Thursday or at least off early Thursday to attend (we have 14 in the wedding party as well)
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:12 am to 3andOut
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Its them having to take off Thursday or at least off early Thursday to attend (we have 14 in the wedding party as well)
I think you're making some big assumptions here. Not everyone with a government job is off Fridays, and not everyone who alternates Fridays has the same Friday off. And I seriously doubt you know all of your friend's work schedules, unless you have like 4 friends, in which case do whatever the hell you want.
Sounds like you need to be prepared for a small turnout if you decide on the weekday.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:12 am to 3andOut
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Thursday Night 5pm or 6pm the following day is veterans day and most of our friends have government jobs so they are already off Friday. Its them having to take off Thursday or at least off early Thursday to attend (we have 14 in the wedding party as well)
This is a great idea if you don't want anyone to show up to your wedding.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:14 am to 3andOut
From someone that has been married almost 15 years, your wife is right. Those that care enough to be there, will be there and 15 years down the road you won't really care who was there and who wasn't.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:15 am to 3andOut
Under 20 people total, go for it. Over 20...do a weekend. That is, if you want people to come.
Barely made it to one on a Friday evening, and that was in the same town I lived in. Worst wedding I've ever been in.
Do a weekend.
Barely made it to one on a Friday evening, and that was in the same town I lived in. Worst wedding I've ever been in.
Do a weekend.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:16 am to 3andOut
Man do it on a Saturday, just think of all the gifts you miss out on if you do it on a Thursday, and I'm not talking about material things, I'm talking about folks getting hammered and doing stupid shite at the reception 
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:18 am to PrivatePublic
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I think you're making some big assumptions here. Not everyone with a government job is off Fridays
Government jobs that the people who are attending the wedding have give them off for Veterans Day. So its not an assumption. I would say 100 of our 175 on the guest list have confirmed they will be off that Friday which is Veterans Day.
And the turnout is what im worried about. We don't have any out of towners coming in thankfully. The venue says that the turn outs on weekdays are about the same as weekends. I know they are just trying to sell the place. I was really hoping someone who has had or attending a weekday wedding could weigh in on this. Again, I want Saturday but I am giving yall the argument and rebuttals that she gave me on why Thursday makes more sense big picture wise. I need some ammo to get my damn Saturday back.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:19 am to 3andOut
Do you really care who shows up or not?
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:23 am to Duke
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Do you really care who shows up or not?
Honestly... yes to an extent. There are some people I couldn't care less about but the majority of them I would really like to be there, but its not to the extent where I would cancel my wedding because certain people couldn't attend. Just don't want to plan for 200 (usual is 25% of people not show up) and it turn out being 100 people. instead of the 150 I would actually expect. Weddings are expensive and I don't want to overplan etc.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:28 am to 3andOut
I've never attended a weekday wedding. I'm reluctant to even attend weekend weddings these days, but that's neither here nor there. I was in invited to a Friday night wedding once, but didn't go.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:38 am to 3andOut
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Thoughts?
Elope. Seriously. Save the $$$ and throw a post-wedding party on a weekend after you return. Your friends and your pocket book will thank you for it.
I've had friends take the traditional route, the traditional but smaller route, and the destination route, and the ones who just went to Vegas or somewhere else by themselves (or with a very small family contingent), were the happiest with their decisions-and their savings.
This post was edited on 4/1/15 at 9:45 am
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:44 am to 3andOut
I think if you are having a small wedding and the participants (groomsmen and bridesmaids) can make it work, why the hell not?
4100 is a lot of money and most people can understand this if you explain.
4100 is a lot of money and most people can understand this if you explain.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:51 am to 3andOut
Personally, and I think I speak for most people on this, but unless I'm standing in a weekday wedding, I won't show. You're going to have a lot of people who want to be there, but won't because of the date. The same happens with destination weddings.
If money is a problem, pick a cheaper venue. The fact that no one here has ever been to a weekday wedding should tell you something, and there are plenty of old farts who have seen dozens of weddings.
If money is a problem, pick a cheaper venue. The fact that no one here has ever been to a weekday wedding should tell you something, and there are plenty of old farts who have seen dozens of weddings.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:58 am to 3andOut
Celebrate the shite out of having found a woman who is logical, practical, and frugal. Damn, dude. Marry her on Wednesday before she gets away.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 10:04 am to cokebottleag
Lets look at it fiscally. Lets say out of 200 invited, you maybe get 100 to show with gifts. You saved 4100 on the venue, but missed out on 100 people due to the date.
Say you go back to Saturday. You still invited 200 people, but this time 180 show with gifts. Those extra 80 people, spending $50 apiece on gifts, equals $4000 in gifts you wouldn't have received on Thursday, plus they will have attended your wedding.
Is the $100 in savings (estimated) worth 80 people not getting to share in your wedding experience?
Say you go back to Saturday. You still invited 200 people, but this time 180 show with gifts. Those extra 80 people, spending $50 apiece on gifts, equals $4000 in gifts you wouldn't have received on Thursday, plus they will have attended your wedding.
Is the $100 in savings (estimated) worth 80 people not getting to share in your wedding experience?
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:32 am to 5thTiger
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Say you go back to Saturday. You still invited 200 people, but this time 180 show with gifts. Those extra 80 people, spending $50 apiece on gifts, equals $4000 in gifts you wouldn't have received on Thursday, plus they will have attended your wedding.
Hardly anyone brings presents to the actual wedding/reception anymore. Most people order from the registry and have it shipped to the couple.
That said, I do think a turnout for a Thurs night wedding will be significantly lower. If I didn't live close by, I probably wouldn't go unless it was a close friend or family member.
The only weekday wedding I went to was on a Friday and it was actually pretty awesome. It was in the fall during football season and was somewhat of a destination wedding - big lake development in N Ga - so we got up for the rehearsal dinner Thurs night, wedding on Friday, hung around all day at the house we rented and watched football on Saturday. And for those that didn't come to the rehearsal, they got up on Friday and stayed through Sunday. It worked out really well.
Thursday wedding is a different story.
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